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Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Christmas is so stressful for so many of us,bits really hard to get into the 'spirit' of it all when battling illness, loss, reminders of loss, empty chairs, llonelines, financial strain...

WHAT MAKES CHRISTMAS HARD FOR YOU, AND WHY.

I just wanna create a space where we can vent the thoughts and feelings tabu or misunderstood by so many. Of cause there's good mixed in ok but we don't like spoiling their fun, so when it gets you down come here say it.

LONELINESS is a big one, our poor @Adge is waiting on his 10th Christmas alone, but this year is even worse because COVID has caused council to shut down their only community Christmas lunch he looked fwd to. This year looks to feel extra ALONE for Adge and he's already sad because if it. And that's on top of losing his job recently. I feel for you Adge 💙💙💙

Its just me and an adult son in the Big Smoke who recharges best in his own company and finds Christmas 'get-to-gethers' a chore I think, an interruption to his limited time off work... (or so he makes me feel). It doesn't help that he's lost faith in the concept of 'family' after coming from a broken home and losing his sister (to asthma) suddenly when he was 21. He's right, or 'family' is shattered and I don't feel it anymore. He's become someone I know really well, and love and care about... but since he abandoned me to spend Christmas with his girlfriends family interstate acfewvyears back... and constantly talks of moving overseas permanently, yep, I can't depend on Christmas in loving company. Its a sad time.

TELL ME WHAT YOU FIND HARD ABOUT CHRISTMAS THIS YEAR?

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@Former-Member 💙💙💙

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Hi @Adge is it possible to be your own agency ? Or register your own business name, if your physically that fit to be a cleaner of sorts hiring yourself out to do peoples shopping and a whole host of services would be better, and fairer on you, not that lot you wonder how the govt let people get away with it. I bet they wouldn't if they new bet they have a track record.

@Former-Member @TAB

from Clawde

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Hi @Clawde Good ideas 💡 hope you are okay

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..Coles pay $25/hr @Adge .. but thats minimum wage, govt pays more, never used to historically but does these days

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I know I am a tad late but thank you so much for the giggles, needed it more then you will know. Thank you friend. @Former-Member

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You're welcome @Former-Member - chat / talk things through if you need to 🙏

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Christmas seems very different this year 🎄

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I'm finding that a lot of people are not in the spirit of Christmas. Whether it's because of Covid, stress, family issues etc etc it just seems that people don't seem happy.

I know I am one of them - sad. I have wrapped all presents yesterday but not excited at all.

This year seems really tough.

Hi @Rosemary4

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Hi @BlueBay, you sound down. Do you have many broken relationships or loses that make it hard (like me)? I think everyone's fatigued by long term uncertainty with this pandemic, desasters, political conflicts and interference, depressing news reports, hype, and climate change... ...
The children lost this Christmas particularly 😢
That TAS tragedy & now the plane crash up here near Brisbane 😞
I've been therapizing with Google search to cope, Christmas memes and trying to connect here. Thanks for replying.
But think I'm procrastinating trying to make Christmas nice in my house at least. I don't know why,vi just get avoidant and dithery. But also it's so hot here and no aircon. Where are you?

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hi @Rosemary4

i don't think we've met on here before. Yes i am down, really down. I have my own post "need to vent" if you would like to read a bit there. I can tag you.

Basically, lost my job in July, not able to work since having depressive episodes, anxiety. Had surgery 2 months ago for hernia; financially stressed because of only one income.

parents not coming for xmas. lots of family/parents issues over the years.

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