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Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Christmas, the SAD side 😞

Christmas is so stressful for so many of us,bits really hard to get into the 'spirit' of it all when battling illness, loss, reminders of loss, empty chairs, llonelines, financial strain...

WHAT MAKES CHRISTMAS HARD FOR YOU, AND WHY.

I just wanna create a space where we can vent the thoughts and feelings tabu or misunderstood by so many. Of cause there's good mixed in ok but we don't like spoiling their fun, so when it gets you down come here say it.

LONELINESS is a big one, our poor @Adge is waiting on his 10th Christmas alone, but this year is even worse because COVID has caused council to shut down their only community Christmas lunch he looked fwd to. This year looks to feel extra ALONE for Adge and he's already sad because if it. And that's on top of losing his job recently. I feel for you Adge 💙💙💙

Its just me and an adult son in the Big Smoke who recharges best in his own company and finds Christmas 'get-to-gethers' a chore I think, an interruption to his limited time off work... (or so he makes me feel). It doesn't help that he's lost faith in the concept of 'family' after coming from a broken home and losing his sister (to asthma) suddenly when he was 21. He's right, or 'family' is shattered and I don't feel it anymore. He's become someone I know really well, and love and care about... but since he abandoned me to spend Christmas with his girlfriends family interstate acfewvyears back... and constantly talks of moving overseas permanently, yep, I can't depend on Christmas in loving company. Its a sad time.

TELL ME WHAT YOU FIND HARD ABOUT CHRISTMAS THIS YEAR?

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Re: Christmas, the SAD side 😞

.. @Clawde .. re above .. Hope you are okay @Former-Member

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Hang in there @Former-Member ... I donno what's happening for you but like most of us - one day at a time, one foot in front of the other, as slow as our need, but don't give up, and we get there. Hugs💞
Hi @TAB 👋😊

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Thank you @Former-Member

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Re: Being a Subcontractor (Cleaner) - Possible Offer.... @Former-Member @TAB

After 1 & 1/2 week - They say they could not contact my Referees.

So they've Stalled my Application (No Offer)!

This Cleaning Agency (possible offer) does not have private house cleaners as employees (no staff) – They are private “Sub-Contractors” (sort of).

If they give me an offer, they would “Refer clients to me” – I would not be employed by them.

I would only get paid $25 per hour (Gross) – The Agency gets $10.50 per hour (on top of that).

I would have to pay my own Tax (somehow).

No Superannuation contributions would be paid for me (by the Agency).

Superannuation is supposed to be paid “On Top of (in addition) to hourly rates” – I’ve never heard of this situation before.

That would mean paying my own Super Contributions out of the measly $20 per hour – That is left, after paying my own Tax.

I don’t see how this is possible.

It seems very tricky & complicated.

What do you think?

The Reference Checks have stalled - So no offer..

Adge

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it is Tricky @Adge you cant afford to support them. Dont do it .

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Thanks @TAB I'm stumped.

This morning they demanded (several Abrupt messages) - That I find New Referees for them.

I cannot, I don't have any other Referees...

Adge

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When things get like that you know its hi-turnover/really bad deal for everyone except them .. @Adge just block them you will feel better and be better off ..

cleaning is really very hard physically apparently as well, let alone doing it for nix(well as good as)

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Thanks @TAB I think you're right (sadly)....

Adge

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dont be sad @Adge fact is a lot of jobs are not worth having. Really hard work and low pay and horrible employers

Something will come up hopefully

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