Good morning @Former-Member .... 🤗💕
These are the two 8 have used the most -
I could seek counselling about how to deal with it.
I could withdraw from the people who were hurting me and put up barriers to limit their influence in my life.
Before he became this unwell, this one worked a lot of the time too .....
I could talk it out with my hubby and expect him to be reasonable and supportive.
...... but I had to be selective and careful with it. Even thought his family were behaving badly, and he is now in the same sorts of ways, he / they have no understanding of how and why it is wrong, and the sort of damage it does to relationships. They just think that the results they achieve justify the methods they use to achieve it.
That is the work now of the pdoc, and I have to come to terms with the ocpd diagnosis my WH has received. What is that going to mean for us long-term, after the e.d. has been diagnosed and he is treated for that. At the moment he has been given the diagnosis, but I am not aware of him being referred to a pdoc for himself, or to counselling with a psychologist or anything .... and I am worried about that. I think he won't know what to do with it, and although he is trying very hard to curb his controlling behaviours, in part he is not really understanding the different forms of them.
Guess that's still ahead of us, and in part why we have been referred to family counselling.
Just taking this one step at a time.
Are you seeing a counsellor to help you make sense of e.r.d. (which I found btw) and provide you with some management strategies ?
if there is something you would like to chat about, I am here for you, if you think it would be helpful ....
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