Connect with people who understand what you are going through, seek advice and surround yourself with support. We're free, anonymous, and professionally moderated 24/7.

47,612Members
1,358,869Posts
1,400,000Visitors

Moving forward

Unknown userMember13 Aug 2016, 9:20 pm AEST

Moving forward

As Monday looms I have been trying to work out how to move forward. Today I started collecting things for my coping box (thanks @Crazy_Bug_Lady). I bought some of my fave chocolates to put in and have been gathering bits and pieces. Happy for any other suggestions as to what to put in. I think I may need one for the car too. I'm thinking I may copy some pieces of wisdom from this forum and print them up to add in.

I'm hoping that I get to write more on this thread than the struggle thread as time goes by. Please feel free to add how you are moving forward as well. 💜😊

856 replies

701 - 710 of 856

1...70 71 72...86

In response to: Moving forward

Unknown userMember15 Oct 2016, 3:05 pm AEDT

Re: Moving forward

Thanks @Former-Member. I'll try. I'm not very good at this part. I'm not very good at hiding and used to be an open book, then I was closed tightly. Now since being on here for most stuff I'm an open book again so I'll have try to be calm and ok. I'm stepping into the really real for a bit oooohhhhh. 💜😊

In response to: Moving forward

Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor15 Oct 2016, 3:11 pm AEDT

Re: Moving forward

Absolutely @Former-Member @Former-Member .....

You need to be able to anchor yourself ahead of going. That will take thinking about what you want to say, and when you are used to being transparent with people, it takes fore-thought and practice to develop privacy boundaries without feeling like you are outside your integrity ....

You can choose to say something like, "I am still struggling to come to terms with it myself and find the whole situation too difficult to talk about yet ..... I hope you understand ...."

If you think about it a bit and consider what sort of wording you are comfortable with, then as @Bed suggested, practice a bi so it comes to you easily when you reach for it in the moment.

💜

In response to: Re: Moving forward

Unknown userMember15 Oct 2016, 3:16 pm AEDT

Re: Moving forward

Thanks @Faith-and-Hope. I just went straight into anxiety. Logic brain out the window. Cheers. I am going in an hour so I won't be around for a while now. 😘🤗 @Former-Member, @Faith-and-Hope

In response to: Re: Moving forward

Unknown userMember15 Oct 2016, 3:20 pm AEDT

Re: Moving forward

@Former-Member, can you do some mindfulness or deep breathing? It might help?

In response to: Moving forward

Unknown userMember15 Oct 2016, 3:31 pm AEDT

Re: Moving forward

@Former-Member sometimes people ask to fill their own cup. So putting it in perspective this way, maybe it eases the need or obligation to feel so informative to the person asking questions?
It's a little bit of taking your own back, so you are holding you...the hurt little girl inside part.
You are going to be socially involved just like everyone else. Not as a talking point for others to bare judgement over.
Maybes??
Big hugs...❤

In response to: Moving forward

Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor15 Oct 2016, 3:49 pm AEDT

Re: Moving forward

I can relate @Former-Member ..... used to get accosted and bowled over like that by in-laws until I developed my shields and it still took trial and error to work out when and how to raise and lower them.

Glad you're taking a wing-man ..... 😊

In response to: Moving forward

Unknown userMember15 Oct 2016, 3:59 pm AEDT

Re: Moving forward

Afternoon @Faith-and-Hope

I can't remember if I said goodnight last nite or not

But any case I probably did try to sleep and I came back online

I did a pool swim today and I have been for my walk too

Its hot day here today

Hope you are having a nice day!!!

In response to: Moving forward

Unknown userMember15 Oct 2016, 4:02 pm AEDT

Re: Moving forward

Hello @Shaz51

Sorry I missed you this morning

I have been out most of the day, which has been good for me.

What have you been up to today?

In response to: Re: Moving forward

BlueBaySenior Contributor15 Oct 2016, 4:02 pm AEDT

Re: Moving forward

Good on you @Former-Member for going for your swim and walk 🙂

It is windy where I am but not cold.

In response to: Re: Moving forward

BlueBaySenior Contributor15 Oct 2016, 4:03 pm AEDT

Re: Moving forward

Hi @Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@Former-Member@Former-Member@Former-Member

Hope you're all having a nice day.

701 - 710 of 856

1...70 71 72...86