Moving forward

you do mean flavoured milk re mocha? hm maybe not hmm literally hit the wall all of a sudden, have slept but not enough to stuff tonight up lol @Former-Member

@Former-Member@Appleblossom

Having pride in our work seems fine to me - as is taking pride in how we deal with other people, our appearance etc - and not at all wrong

Too proud - excellent @Former-Member - some people are - too proud to notice their ignorance - etc - too proud to know they are too proud -

My school report once said "Has a good sense of humour" - my mother did not understand that at all

My mother was an acrobat - she could stand on her hands and do perfect cartwheels - I was a terrible disappointment to her.

But I was sent along to a Saturday afternoon class for "gym" or something similar - and for all I fell short in life according to mother - I overheard the teacher say to someone

"I have never seen a child try like this one"

That had a formidable impact - I have never been too proud to try - but I never did learn to do perfect cartwheels

Dec

Hi Kurra

It's amazing how we can live with something not knowing it to be unusual - until they give us a label which (for some reason) we see as negative

Once BPD was called manic depression - really strange - that label was really bad

I see no reason to be ashamed - even though people do - I feel it's the dark side of the unknown world of the unconscious that is blamed - the part that used to be called evil whereas it is really a chemical imbalance of the brain

What will the future hold for us - honestly - I am really glad that it is unlikely that I will be around that long

You're okay @Kurra - I have no doubt that BPD makes the world a dark place at times

I was disdiagnosed at being Bi-Polar after my son died - really!! - to this day it astounds me - but I was formally diagnosed as not having it - but rather being alone in my grief for my son it was grief itself - pushed down for the times when I coped - but terrible depression-like thinking when it over-came me

All the best @Kurra and thanks for sharing

Decadian

Hi @Former-Member

My mother sneered at my education and my knowledge when I was still an undergraduate - and snapped

"I've got sense. Good common sense"

And from my position of non-argument I don't think I answered but I might have - and that answer would have been "How do you know?"

I think it's fine to have pride for achieving an Honours Degree through so many years of life being hard - but I also acknowledge that research, learning and remembering data is easy for me - I can only give thanks for that

It seems you have something to deal with tomorrow - something I am glad I do not - though I must have at some stage seeing as the whole neighbourhood had a lot to say about how I was rearing my son and the local police were my best friends at times - I understand that is hard yards

If someone pushes against my boundaries they will hear about it - I don't have to have a yelling match with a woman in the street - but yes - I tell people who want to see something at my door that I am not interested - can they not see the sign on my door about not knocking etc

But as tough as I know it is for you - you do have your boundaries and have to stop neighbourhood kids barging through that - I will have you in my thoughts tomorrow - it's horrible - I think the way some children behave is horrible - and necessary for someone to speak out

Yes - tough stuff - but dealing with it can be something to be proud of - defending your space

Decadian