Need to vent

have i missed the topic about trauma??? was it on last night?

i can't find it anywhere

i seem to not be able to find things lately

@Former-Member

Hey @BlueBay, no you haven't missed the live trauma discussion- that's still to come on the 23rd of Feb (2 weeks today)! The announcement should be coming soon, so keep an eye out for it, but I'll do the same and make sure you're tagged 😊

Great thsnk you @TideisTurning 😊

HI @BlueBay

I'm sorry I didn't reply earlier - my shoulder has been playing up and there was a mix-up with my special medication - the mistake wasn't mine and I knew that so I just had to wait and keep ringing up until it was sorted - life just happens sometimes

I have been reading however - and I think that melt-down at work was coming and now it has it will be interesting to hear how it works out. Your supervisor sounds like the three-headed dog that guarded Hades - Cerberus - scary monster - I would not like to work for her and actually wouldn't - which is why I thought it would be good to resign. In my past I have - once I walked out and someone came out after me and asked me to go back and the problem was sorted. Our lives are different

Your supervisor needs reporting and I hope you can do it - it does sound lonely all by yourself in your corner cleaning baskets. I remember that you were hired to work in the bakery and so - do you know how it came to pass that you are cleaning baskets and is this job necessary because of COVID? I am sure baskets were not cleaned all the often where I shop. It has always seemed a bit odd to me but I don't know what happens behind the scenes so I didn't think much but I have during the last few days. I hope you can talk to your manager because it's not good that you are so unhappy and have your hours reduced. I know you are a hard and willing worker so it's wrong that you are treated this way.

I wish you the best with that

I am glad you are firm about not having any thing to do with your mother and yes - your father has made his choices. As did mine. I remember going to Dad's 80th but not my parents' 60th wedding anniversary - Dad did want me in the family and took control of the situation when possible and rang me. Tensions like that have collateral damage - stick to your guns and focus on one day - a whole life-time is too much

You were right to go for the job interview and it is disappointing not to hear about whether you have it or not when they say they will contact you - you don't know why they didn't ring though - perhaps they had more interviews - perhaps the person who would ring you was off-work or otherwise unable to ring. I hope you have heard something by now - I know it's tough but not going to an interview because you think you mightn't get the job is futile - it's one sure way of not getting the job

I do hear you - and sorry I haven't posted earlier - I haven't been up to using my computer much because of my shoulder - and I am very tired because of the pain. I am used to pain but no one likes it - something I insist on saying to people at times -

I am still here for you

Dec

Pls don't apologise for not replying earlier @Owlunar i do understand.
Not sure if you remember - I had carpal tunnel surgery and back pain couldn't go back to bakery. Thsts when I asked for something else. But now I'm sick of doing the same biting job. We are the only supermarket that is still cleaning baskets. I don't know why.

im still feeling very overwhelmed used and emotional.

I'm not sure I'm strong enough to talk to management. I get scared very quickly.

I hope your shoulder is ok.
BB xxoo

I'm so not wanting to be at work tomorrow

I feel like a real loser

a hopeless person

@Owlunar @Snowie @BPDSurvivor @Shaz51 @Emelia8 @MDT and others reading

Yeah - it does suck @BlueBay

You do have some choices though - I guess you know that though

You can go on hating all of this or screw up all your courage and talk to the manager

Or resign or cancel the shift or just not turn up. All tough I know

But what's the best thing for you? I can't imagine what it's like to hate your job so much or how it feels to be afraid to talk to the manager

What's the worst thing that can happen if you talk to your manager?

ActuallyI have been thinking someone might have done this for you after you cried at work - they let you go home early

It's rough but how long can you battle with this - you were hired to work in the bakery and the woman said you were a good worker there and the baskets don't need cleaning anyway -

It's up to you and I am sure you can do this and need to

Of course I care and want the best for you

Dec

Hey @BlueBay ,

It's okay to feel like you don't want to go to work. These are FEELINGS. Your feelings change and are probably dependent on your environment. For example, if someone treats you nicely at work, then you really want to go to work; but if someone treats you poorly, then you don't want to go to work. Does that sound familiar?

This is how I see it. It would be nice if everyone loved me at work, talked to me, laughed with me, wanted to hang out with me. But ultimately, I'm not at work to make friends. I'm at work to:

- do my job

- bring in money

- walk out at the end of the day and leave work at work.

When I first started my career, my one most powerful boundary I promised myself was:

"Home stays at home; work stays at work."

In other words, I leave my personal problems at home, and also, I don't take my work home. This strong boundary has kept me sane.

All the best,

BPDSurvivor

Hi @BlueBay

You certainly are not a loser hon. You are brave and courageous.

I hope work goes ok for you today.

Thinking of you 💜

Hi there @BlueBay ... I note you have not posted in a couple of days.

Did you manage to get to work yesterday? And how did it go? Perhaps you spoke to the manager.

One thing I want to stress is that you are NOT a real loser or a hopeless person. Far from it.

This is necessarily brief, but I spotted you online and wanted to let you know I am here for you and hope you're okay.

Emelia 💞🤗🌸