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zipperSenior Contributor
Hello ladies
I am a wife who has had a husband with depression for 10 years now. He has had multiple hospitalisations, long series of ECT's, and is now not able to work. I would love to hear from ladies who have been, are in, my shoes and was wondering if you would answer a few questions for me.
1. Where have you needed the most help, and, could you find it?
2. What has been your hardest struggle?
thanks in advance and all my best wishes
ZZ
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Serenity2Casual Contributor
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TootsySenior Contributor
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tymeModerator
Hey @Tootsy ,
I'm hearing how hard things have been for you recently, but you are doing what you can and trying your best.
I'm sorry that you feel life is spiralling out of control. Do you have any supports you can turn to at this time?
It's so important that you have someone to chat you. As much as they may not be able to give you a solution, knowing someone cares can make all the difference.
What have you been up to today?
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello and hugs @Tootsy
Soo good to see 👀 you again my friend 🧡
Sitting with you and letting you know that you are not alone
Coping Toolbox ( what is in yours to help you cope ) is a good thread to clink on to
@Serenity2 , @tyme , @Healandlove
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TootsySenior Contributor
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TootsySenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
Hey @Tootsy just a lil tip, if you want other members to be notified that you've responded, you can tag them - use the @ symbol and a drop down will appear, and you can choose their name. If their name isn't there, you can type it out and it should then appear for you to select, and it will show up in blue, like this: @Shaz51
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TootsySenior Contributor
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hugs @Tootsy ❤️
A little tip to put a @ In front of members names so they can receive your message xx
What is happening my friend 🧡
@Jynx. @tyme
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TootsySenior Contributor
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Help us push aside the stigma and discrimination surrounding complex mental health and change the way people talk about, and care for, mental illness.
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