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Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

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Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

Boundary setting is an important, albeit difficult, part of self-care when a loved one is living with complex mental health challenge. This may be harder and more complex for some than others. By setting boundaries, you are taking responsibility for how others treat you and your own needs seriously.

Join us for a 1.5 hour text-based chat with our special guests ARAFMI as we share ideas as to how we can set boundaries and look after our own mental health whilst caring for loved ones. This all happens on the night, right here in this thread!

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CentroCasual Contributor

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

Hi there, this is my first forum and having teething problems understanding how this all works, to the question- the challenge I have is setting the boundary in the first place with a loved one, without progressing to probably adding another event to the week

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BronContributor

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

FindingStrength, that doesn't mean you are doing anything wrong. It just means that your loved one doesn't like boundaries. When you know what to expect, you know can be better prepared to keep calm and just make your statement.

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Unknown userMember

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

@FindingStrength I am sorry to hear of this, being yelled at taps into a primitive fight/flight or freeze response which can be very hard. It makes sense to fear the notion of a reaction to a boundary with your loved one. Even those living with mental health issues need to be accountable for behaviour that's not okay We're here to sit with you in the journey. Also our help centre could be really good for a call to unpack this, you can book a chat with them confidentially here 🙂 Or chat with the team at Arafmi on 1300 554 660 (24/7).

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DamaCasual Contributor

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

Requests for money. Conversations at high volume. Wishing I could say right thing and not seem so separate.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

yes balance is the hardest bit for me , I agree @Former-Member , @Bron

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Unknown userMember

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

@Dama Welcome and thank you for sharing A theme of the loud conversations tonight, very hard for carers 😞 This is very understandable. This notion of feeling "seperate", also quite powerful. Have you ever communicated this feeling of seperateness to your loved one?

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luckymeauntyContributor

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

With great difficulty and perseverance. Keeping going. Remembering I am a person with wants and needs etc myself. It is a tough gig. I am learning every day. Sometimes I write on a piece of paper something along the lines of....I would like to acknowledge to myself how I handled the financial, emotional, psychological situation yesterday, and more so today. Well done (my name) you are doing a good job. ...this note is for my eyes only

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Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

@Centro hello! Welcome 🙂 Teething problems are very understandable. Are you on a laptop/computer? We do find it's easier to be on that as opposed to a smaller device as it's text based and requires a lot of browser refreshing.

Thanks for sharing.. Setting a boundary for sure can be difficult, especially if we don't often do it. Is there a reason you don't want to set the boundary? Fear of their response or similar? We're here to listen and again, welcome to our community 🙂

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FindingStrengthSenior Contributor

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

Thanks. I'm getting better at recognising whats mine & whats not. But I might call the help centre to discuss it more.

It is hard to distinguish the illness from the behaviours...

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Unknown userMember

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

Welcome @Anastasia !

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