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Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

Unknown userMember05 Aug 2020, 4:17 pm AEST

Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

Boundary setting is an important, albeit difficult, part of self-care when a loved one is living with complex mental health challenge. This may be harder and more complex for some than others. By setting boundaries, you are taking responsibility for how others treat you and your own needs seriously.

Join us for a 1.5 hour text-based chat with our special guests ARAFMI as we share ideas as to how we can set boundaries and look after our own mental health whilst caring for loved ones. This all happens on the night, right here in this thread!

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Unknown userMember26 Aug 2020, 7:09 pm AEST

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

@FindingStrength Wonderful to see you!

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Shaz51Senior Contributor26 Aug 2020, 7:09 pm AEST

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

hello @FindingStrength xx

Hello @csutak40 , our guess speaker @Bron is going to ask questions and you can share and read as we go along

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Unknown userMember26 Aug 2020, 7:11 pm AEST

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

Alrighty everyone let's quick off with Question One on Setting Boundaries as a Carer -

If you are a carer or loved one - What are some challenges you have found in boundary setting with loved ones struggling with mental health issues?

@FindingStrength @Shaz51 @Former-Member @Bron

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BronContributor26 Aug 2020, 7:11 pm AEST

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

Guilt arises when carers assume responsibility for the person they care about, or when they believe that they are to blame for the situation in some way. They may not be clear of what is their responsibility (their own thoughts, emotions and behaviour) and what is not.

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luckymeauntyContributor26 Aug 2020, 7:12 pm AEST

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

Finding the balance between compassion for their struggles & maintaining boundaries once set.

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Unknown userMember26 Aug 2020, 7:14 pm AEST

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

yes balance is the hardest bit, agreed @luckymeaunty

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FindingStrengthSenior Contributor26 Aug 2020, 7:14 pm AEST

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

I have struggled with worry/fear that my loved one will have an extreme reaction to a boundary - which has happened. I also don't enjoy being the recipient of loud anger.

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Unknown userMember26 Aug 2020, 7:16 pm AEST

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

Very powerful reflection @luckymeaunty thank you for sharing, certainly resonates with me the notion of balance. How do you go about managing that conflict of sustaining compassion but also looking after yourself?

@Bron Thank you for this, sometimes I see a common theme of self-blame here on the forums amongst our carer community. It's important we are really gentle with ourselves in the process of caring for those living with complex mental health, and empower ourselves to take a break at times. The ol' oxygen mask on yourself before others on the plane rings true!

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Unknown userMember26 Aug 2020, 7:18 pm AEST

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

@Pearl146 @SoS you might be interested in joining this online discussion.

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AnastasiaSenior Contributor26 Aug 2020, 7:19 pm AEST

Re: Online Event // Setting Boundaries as a Carer - with ARAFMI // Weds Aug 26th, 7-8.30pm AEST

Thank you @Former-Member

Hi @Bron

Hi all 👋

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