Changing meds

@WIP you're a lovely person 🙂

Sending 💛 and hugs...

Hi @WIP ,

Sounds so great that you found a pdoc that cares and treats you as a real person - not a number! I'm so glad that you were able to have your meds 'straightened out'. It makes a huge difference.

You are so right in saying making connections helps recovery. This is what I found helpful in my recovery. When I was in PARCs, I was around people who I could relate to. Real people who had similar struggles to myself. I didn't need to hide behind my superhero cape. I could talk freely about my MH and not be judged. To this day, I still keep in contact with talk regularly to some of the people I've met at PARCs.

Despite living on my own, I don't often feel lonely. My day is so jam packed that it's good to just be alone at the end of the day. I guess 'loneliness' is a state of mind - you can be alone but not be lonely; or you can be surrounded by people and be lonely. Perhaps it's about framing what loneliness means? Im not sure. It's a individual's journey.

As for work, yes, I'm flat out. I've picked up a 4-6 week project which means I'm working ALL day and finish at 11pm. Why? You may ask. My answer? I don't really know. Perhaps it's about having these goals that I can attain to? To me, it's a game. I have daily targets, and I try to beat them.

So yeah, I'm in education. I've got all the kids doing work at home because of the lockdown. It is what it is. Can't change it. Can only change how we react towards it.At least we have school holidays soon. I'm also trying to finish off my last two assignments for uni for this semester. Then I've got one more semester and I'm done! Can't wait!

So my dear @WIP , you've come soooooooo far. It's amazing to see. You're entire journey has been detailed in this thread, and I can see the huge progress you've made. There have been downs, but there have been ups. There have been storms, but there have been sun.

Strive for progress and not perfection.

Hugs continually, BPDSurvivor

Thank you.

You're pretty special yourself @NatureLover

Sending hugs and best wishes for a special day ahead 🧡

Hi @BPDSurvivor

I love the saying "strive for progress and not for perfection".

I took a coulple one away from group I attended in hospital - they're a bit corny, but help to remind me to slow down and take things step by step:

Recovery is a journey, not a destination

Recovery is tough and scary, but so is staying the same

My r'ship With this peer worker is very new, so it's going to take time to develop the rapport, and take my mask off, but I think it won't take long to develop.

My goodness! You've got so much going on, but it sounds as though you are loving you, which is awesome.

I don't feel lonely when I'm around people, just when I'm at home by myself - which is most days. I've set goals to get out there volunteering, attending the gym and joining some groups on MeetUp. Some of these strategies may work, some maybe not. But I've got to give it a go. Getting out there is my most difficult challenge - once I'm there, im Ok.

Lots of love & best wishes, WIP 🤗💞

Hi @Clawde

How are you going? I hope all is well.

Hi @WIP ,

Ive just finished my work for the night and taking time to respond to posts. I read the posts each morning and respond in the evening or early morning.

One thing I remember when I had my peer worker was getting too attached. Be mindful of this so you don't make the same mistake as me. Because she could relate to me so much and understand so much of me, I clung to her, and felt rejected when I could no longer continue with her. (Also note, this was a BPD thing around 'attachments' so you may not have the same issue). But I remember I loved her company so much, so 'losing her' was a setback for me.

I love the two quote you have taken away from you time in hospital. They make sooooo much sense!

I can't wait until lockdown ends so that you can hopefully go back to some of your work volunteering and social outings.

I sometimes laugh when we talk about the lockdown 'ending'. As some people say, 'the day lockdown ends is another day closer to the next' LOL.

Also, was it you who completed that DBT course involving both group and individual sessions? If so, I'm really interested to hear about it.

Hugs always,

BPDSurvivor

Thank you, you're kind, @WIP

I can hear you're frustrated with the lockdown...I hope you're managing. Sending lots of 💚 and hugs.

Hello dear @WIP

Gosh I've missed you. I can breathe a little more now and wanted to pop in and remind you that you are amazing. It sounds like you are continuing to kick goals and work towards your best life.

Super proud of you sweetheart 💞

Please give little Levi a cuddle from me, I've neglected him too 🐾🐶

Really feeling for.you being in lockdown yet again. Hoping it finishes this time as planned.

Love you lots L X

Oh and Dad's ok thank goodness. Symptoms all gone and he's back to pre covid jab. Thank you for your kind words x

Its lovely to see @NatureLover and @BPDSurvivor @NatureLover here too, love and hugs to you all x

Hi @WIP , how are you coping with the lockdown? This time around I've found it harder...it seems to be dragging on and on! Still another 5 days till an announcement, and we're all holding our breath. At least we can go out for walks - I read that in Spain's first lockdown last year, they weren't even allowed outside to walk for 2 months. Imagine! 😮

And I hope you have good heating as it's pretty darn cold, brrr...

💙

Hi @Anastasia and congratulations on your Community Guide appointment 💚