FORUMS

Connect with people who understand what you are going through, seek advice and surround yourself with support. We're free, anonymous, and professionally moderated 24/7.

  • 47,612Members
  • 1,358,869Posts
  • 1,400,000Visitors
Our stories

Feeling Lonely

supportneededCasual Contributor

Feeling Lonely

I'm 25 years old and I'm living in a small country town away from my family for work purposes. I have lived here for a while now and have fitted into the community and made some great friends.

For some reason I am feeling extremely lonely at the moment. I am having trouble sleeping and I think it may be because of my loneliness. I feel silly because I am very lucky as I have a great family who I miss everyday.

I am not in a relationship and have been single for a very long time. My confidence continues to be battered as I feel that I have not been good enough for men that I have being involved with and I am now asking myself what is wrong with me?

Just looking for someone to chat to.

27 replies

11 - 20 of 27
123

In response to: Feeling Lonely

DeniseCasual Contributor

Re: Feeling Lonely

I do check out things that are going on but not much happens here I miss the classes that I use to do

In response to: Feeling Lonely

Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

Re: Feeling Lonely

I don't have an answer for your loneliness otter than to say we are here for you ....

.... so I am sending you an image I find beautiful just to cheer you ....

Be well 💗💕

In response to: Feeling Lonely

supportneededCasual Contributor

Re: Feeling Lonely

Thank you so much for all your kind words. It helps to know there are other people out there who are experiencing similar feelings.

I try hard to think about the positives as I know how lucky I am. But I often find myself wondering if I will ever find someone special to share my life with. It would be so nice to get home after work and talk with someone about the good and bad things that have happened during my day. I can call my family but that makes me miss them even more.

Thank you again for your kind words x

In response to: Feeling Lonely

utopiaSenior Contributor

Re: Feeling Lonely

@Mozoman. I just looked up that song. Hadn't heard it before. WOW! Great choice for a motivational song for all of us living wit MI. Also touched a good nerve. Today is 9 weeks and 1 day without alcohol. So I'm learning to take it 'one day at a time'. Thanks

In response to: Feeling Lonely

utopiaSenior Contributor

Re: Feeling Lonely

@supportneeded. Yes it would feel nice to come home at the end of the day and share your days experiences. It can be very lonely without a partner to share life's ups and downs with.
Until then, you have us. The wonderful members / contributors on this forum. I know it's not the same, but anytime you need to talk, we are here.

In response to: Feeling Lonely

MozomanSenior Contributor

Re: Feeling Lonely

@utopia i am in same boat. My 11th year anniversary was 3 weeka ago

In response to: Feeling Lonely

MozomanSenior Contributor

Re: Feeling Lonely

@supportneeded i agree with @utopia it is hard not to have someone there to talk/support at the end of a day etc... Simce finding this forum lastnight ( thanks to tv advertising) i know there are many here who will chat as often as you need.

I have the same issue as you, and then some, but am working through it all

My GP ( who i think needs to be gold plated hes so good) has made me make myself busy each and every day. For me weekends are the worst so its extra hard

smile each morning and be a "can do"

In response to: Re: Feeling Lonely

Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

Re: Feeling Lonely

@utopia wrote:
Today is 9 weeks and 1 day without alcohol. So I'm learning to take it 'one day at a time'.

Woo-hoooo ❣. Well done @utopia !! Keep those baby steps going !! 🎉

Hi @supportneeded @Mozoman @Denise

From someone who has spent a lot of time alone, even with others around but not actively engaged for various reasons, I can tell you structured activity is your best friend under these circumstances .... and don't let self-pity convince you otherwise .... because it will probably try ....

Write yourself a daily structure of tidying up, self-care, taking a walk, investing in a hobby, or jigsaw puzzle, or adult colouring in, or crosswords, or something !! Don't be rigid enough about it that you can't ditch it at a moments notice if opportunity comes knocking, but let social company find you as an active, interested, and interesting person when it does ....

Stay connected via the Internet with some current affairs, talk to us ❣😏, look up interesting places, arty or scientific-type things, a bit of history or travel ideas, etc ...

Life changes. It doesn't stay the same. This is your time and place at the moment, and changes often occur in increments rather than dramatically and suddenly. Just fill the time actively and positively while you are in this current bubble ....

Glad you found us ..... 😊

In response to: Feeling Lonely

Unknown userMember

Re: Feeling Lonely

What is self pity?

In response to: Feeling Lonely

utopiaSenior Contributor

Re: Feeling Lonely

@Mozoman. 11 years & 3 weeks. That is a brilliant achievement. Well done.
I guess weekends are also hard because your friends are with thdif family, their kids. Is that right?
11 - 20 of 27
123

SANE Forums is published by SANE with funding from the Australian Government Department of Health.

SANE Forums does not provide crisis support.
If you need immediate assistance, please see available crisis services.

Learn more about SANE and SANE services at sane.org

Back to top
SANE logo
Australian Commission on Safety and Quality in Health Care NSQDMH Accreditation logo

Help us push aside the stigma and discrimination surrounding complex mental health and change the way people talk about, and care for, mental illness.

Donate Now
Aboriginal flag
Torres Strait Islander flag
LGBT flag
Transgender flag

SANE acknowledges the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and recognises the continuing connection to lands, waters and communities. We pay our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures; and to Elders past and present.

SANE values diversity. We are committed to providing a safe, culturally appropriate, and inclusive service for all people, regardless of their ethnicity, faith, disability, sexuality, or gender identity.

Back to top
SANE logo
Australian Commission on Safety and Quality in Health Care NSQDMH Accreditation logo

Help us push aside the stigma and discrimination surrounding complex mental health and change the way people talk about, and care for, mental illness.

Donate Now
Aboriginal flag
Torres Strait Islander flag
LGBT flag
Transgender flag

SANE acknowledges the Traditional Owners of Country throughout Australia and recognises the continuing connection to lands, waters and communities. We pay our respect to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures; and to Elders past and present.

SANE values diversity. We are committed to providing a safe, culturally appropriate, and inclusive service for all people, regardless of their ethnicity, faith, disability, sexuality, or gender identity.

SANE is a public company limited by guarantee and registered tax-exempt charity with DGR (Deductible Gift Recipient) status.

Charity ABN 92 006 533 606. Donations of $2 or more are tax deductible. SANE, PO Box 1226, Carlton VIC 3053.