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Chasing some words of wisdom

Chasing some words of wisdom

Evening all

How's things? I hope the weekend is being kind to you

Chasing some words of wisdom ... To avoid sending myself down a rabbit hole of negativity when comparing myself 2 others and what they have achieved

Back story for context:

Former house mate text me to say hi. And we've chatted a bit today via text.

This girl I rented with for way longer than I should have and in alot of ways was a big piece of the cause of depression and anxiety I now experience. Not blaming her, I didn't have the guts to assert myself and felt responsible for her. So stayed in the friendship/living situation to my detriment.

Anyways she seems to have really landed on her feet, changed jobs - enjoying it, gotten married, set up home...

And then I find myself looking around at my life and frankly I'm still in the same hole as when we stopped housesharing (which frankly was a shit fight in itself)(friendship blew up and didn't talk for a couple of years)

I know comparisons aren't helpful. I'm genuinely happy she is doing well. Just find myself thinking shite what the hell have I been doing - oh yeah that's right - surviving- doing the same shit over and over again.

Any advice or thoughts would be great.

@Dizzylizzy @Maggie

@Shaz51 @NatureLover @Guiding_Light

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Needed to read that @Jo-anneJoy

or even apple crumble from the freezer.

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I really like this @HopefulWarrior

Sometimes it so feels the same wheels keep rolling.
I've found myself in highs and lows and then confusion and loss.
At the moment I feel unsure where life, and relationships are going.
I'm tired of covid which has prevented me getting another MH plan.
I know Time Tells. Some day's it's just hard.
And then to not allow negative view invade self thoughts.
I remind myself, I can't help that it's them. Not me.
I hope you have found some clarity admidst the caos.
Nothing is ever as it seems.
May we see lighter moments soon. 🙂

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@HopefulWarrior @Former-Member @outlander @Guiding_Light

I wrote this down donkey years ago. It's misattributed to William Gibson so I'll claim

authorship of it until the end of May and then you can all take a turn for the rest of

the year, k?

Before you diagnose yourself with depression or

low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not,

in fact, just surrounded by a***holes.

Note. two asterixs for americans, three for aussies & kiwis.

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@Jo-anneJoy

Oh gosh this made me laugh.

Brilliant.

I think a valid viewpoint for sure. It's the sitting through complete garbage at times isn't it!

However it does make me look closer at people's agendas etc.

Once you have got this. It becomes easier to know when to give and when to let go. 🙂

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@HopefulWarrior

I had a similar situation when I split from my ex. I felt like I was stuck. My life was gone, not seeing my kids much, dodgy job. My ex was going fine. I wallowed around in my own misery for about six months and then decided I like to be in a happy relationship and slowly moved into a different space and a new relationship. That was then. Three years go the meds stopped working and I was stuck again. Now after multiple admissions to hospital and so on things are beginning to settle and improve. Painfully slowly. As one sufferer to another there is no way to sugar coat these experiences. THEY JUST SUCK. I feel your frustration and sadness.

WriterMelb

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4 - ive never allowed myself to think that way

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this is a beauty !

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life sure can be tough, especially in the current climate

creating distance by stepping back certainly sounds like good self care

have managed to not get too caught up in the rabbit hole - partly due to all the other shite going on but also just being able to realise that yes we are on our own journeys.

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thank you @WriterMelb for sharing your story
agreed life can just suck sometimes hey?!
starting to appreciate as to not question why why why but deal with what you have to in the present moment - day by day - sometimes hour by hour if necessary

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@Jo-anneJoy

Loved your respect for protocols re rear ends in the US or Aussssz

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