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I thought I'd open up this discussion for anyone going through a rough time at the moment and want to get some extra support. I am struggling a lot at the moment dealing with a range of things. One thing a struggle with is Anxiety. This is something I deal with everyday. I wake up with it every morning and fall asleep (when I sleep) with it every night. Some days are worse than other days. Distractions play a big part in coping with it daily. At the moment being stuck at home schooling my kids is my biggest distraction. It helps most of the time however sometimes it can be a real struggle to stay present and calm. We as a family try to go for a walk everyday. We take our family dog with us. Another distraction for me is cooking but this can be a challenge as I struggle with motivating myself but when I get into it I create some nice things. Today my 8year old son and I made oat based banana and chic chip muffins. 😋😋
I hope everyone's day has been a good day filled with self care and motivation. @Former-Member@Angels333@Sans911@Shaz51@Appleblossom@Snowie@eth@outlander@Former-Member@Zoe7@Faith-and-Hope@BlueBay
And anyone else who I have missed. All are welcome to join.
I am so sorry @Former-Member@Sans911@Zoe7 . So sorry I didn't check in. I didn't mean to worry you. I feel terrible. That was one of the longest panic attacks I have had. Afterwards I couldn't focus on anything. My body felt like lead and I was shaking uncontrollably. I was so exhausted I must have fallen asleep. I am so sorry I shouldn't have said anything in first place.
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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Hello @The-red-centaur
I haven't spoken to you in a very long time. But I've seen you around the forums. I've just boiled the kettle, so if course there's always a spare cup.
How have you been?
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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@Lee82 - firstly, there is absolutely no need to apologise. For anything at all. And thank you for checking in now. I think @Former-Member is around so she will be super pleased to see you.
Don't ever be afraid to post here if you need support. That's what the forums are for. I, or others though can only do so much to help. I particularly if you are in crisis. And and there has to be a willingness to accept that help. I was trying last night to use some grounding techniques to bring you back, but I think you were too far into the panic attack and it's very hard to do over a chat system like this. The other thing I used was a DBT skill called TIPP. I am going to let you look that up.
We can support you Lee as much as possible but it's your responsibility to take care of your needs too. So we have to sometimes sit out our own discomforts and concerns for you until you come back to us again..
Have you got a nice hot drink in hand? I've just fed Mr A so I'm having a coffee and I'll likely got back to sleep in a little while.
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Lee82Senior Contributor
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Thank you @Sans911 for your kind words and thank you so much for helping last night. They almost did work but trying to read and write whilst in a panic attack is super hard. I think if you were sitting next to me telling me those things it would have definitely helped. im sorry but it's hard for me to not feel guilty for worrying you all especially @Former-Member. She doesn't cope very well this that type of stress and I am very angry at myself for putting her you and @Zoe7 through that. It hurts to know I did that. I find it so hard to ask for help. Even here on the forum. I am trying to say more but I can't help but feel like I shouldn't share. I feel bad cause i know everyone else is suffering too
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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I think when some of us came to these forums we were in pretty dire straits @Lee82. I know myself I was bouncing from one crisis to another. I was constantly sh and I was very suicidal. I reached out here a lot and sought help, support and validation all the time. Yes, I felt guilty about that like you do now. But over time through this forum, working with a therapist and attending some programs life has calmed a lot. I still struggle now to cope, and yes, I struggle to reach out here too. However, the wonderful thing about the forums is that there are others who 'get you' and because they have been in similar situations. And one of the nicest things about this forum is that sometimes supporting others distracts you from your own worries and concerns. You can give back to someone else. So if you only got a little benefit out of last night I'm really pleased. You were willing at least to try. Keeping stuff inside us and not reaching out is like an insidious cancer. It will eat you up before you know what is happening.
@Former-Member is simply concerned for you. As a friend. You two have developed a strong bond in a very short space of time. There's nothing wrong with that, but I'm pleased to see that both of you have branched out to other threads and members. And I think you are seeing the rewards of doing that.
So please Lee go easy on yourself. @Zoe7 would say similar things to me. We wouldn't help you if we didn't want to. We did it because we both care about you. I'm not suffering now from you reaching out for help, nor was I last night. There have been times when I have tried to help others & it hasn't gone as well as I had expected. But I don't feel bad at all. I am just one person, and I don't always know the answers.
So I'm going to give you a task today @Lee82. I want you to do something nice for yourself that you wouldn't normally do,ok?
And you can tell me about it later. Hugs and hugs ❤️💜💙💜💙💜
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The-red-centaurSenior Contributor
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@Sans911 thanks for the coffee hun. I feel bad for interrupting this thread lol. Your words to @Lee82 and @Former-Member are very kind. You are a great support to this forum.
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Sans911Senior Contributor
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You're not interrupting this thread at all @The-red-centaur. You are allowed to go wherever you want to in these forums.
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Unknown userMember
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Firstly to @Sans911@Zoe7 and @The-red-centaur thank you all for sitting with me and and @Lee82 last night. Sorry I missed having a coffee with you this morning @Sans911 that would have been nice but I fell back to asleep again. @Zoe7 I took your advice at went to bed and in an attempt to better look after myself I have already done my morning meditation. @The-red-centaur , I am going to make my new playlist after breakfast my friend thank for the songs.
@Lee82 , I love you and I am so glad that you are safe. It was just the longest one yet. I was very worried about you but this time I think I managed reaction pretty ok. Was it hard yes, but in order for me to be here when you came back I couldn't be all over the place. Was there tears yes, but I was kinda ok. You have to stop worrying about sharing here, as you have seen this morning you have more support here than just me, other friends who where worried about you as well. I know you struggle to seek support and here you feel safe enough to do that. Please my love don't stop now. How are you this morning 💖🦋
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Unknown userMember
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I second what @Sans911 said Red, please jump in anytime I really enjoyed chatting with you last night. And I also second what @The-red-centaur said about you @Sans911 you are an amazing support here, and so is @Zoe7 Both of your words had a very calming effect on me last night. Thank you
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