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@Former-Member You haven’t done anything to me. I am sorry that you had a bad experience the mods are limited in what they can do and unless something violates the guidelines they can’t really do much, unless there was offensive language and such used when they asked you not to tag them it is likely the mods can’t take much action, regardless of how it made you feel legally people have a right to be on here unless they break the rules and I am not saying what they did was good or trying to defend anyone I wasn’t there so I really can’t speak on that but in terms of what the mods can do it is limited when it comes to people using the site they can delete posts and such but it is all very complicated and I don’t envy the mods in having to deal with it all at times.

I think maybe just just avoiding the people at least for now for a while is a good idea we cannot control what others do or say but we can control how we respond to them and sometimes not responding is the best way to keep the peace if you are having an issue with someone it is always best to send the mods an email and they can guide you from there. (Can’t say they will respond right away but they will get there)

Hey @Former-Member my post was removed because I broke the guidelines and I am ok with that because they are there to protect everyone.

I am going to eat something and chill. Will be back later. 💖

@Former-Member

I am glad you posted to reassure the forum that you are alright, as a few of us did worry.

I agree with what the others said. It is up to you what you do, regarding life and the forum. There is a relational thing called "locus of control". I used to put all my energy out into pleasing others or wanting them to love me. So it was an external locus of control .. or giving away my power. I am an old bird now ... it is still my default mode but I catch myself and have learned many other ways of being in the world as well now. We are interactive social beings and others do effect us ... that can be sensitivy ... it seems growing up is getting a knack of managing that aspect of back and forward interaction ... is easier for some than us ... for a whole pack of reasons.

There is no single right way to be on the forum. You meet people and learn which ones you feel easier with or get along with ...

It is nearly 5 years I have been reading and posting on Sane. People manage their feelings and social interactions in many different ways. Tagging or reducing tagging. Some have changed their avatar and returned with only some people realising.

Sometimes I felt the caring role as a duty. When I have reached out to people who are struggling with active Suicidal ideation it is hard, but I prefer to reach than pass the anyone or post by. I have had to sit with uncertainty about many previous posters. From time to time I still wonder about them, but I am learning not to get too stuck. We have lost someone by cancer. Its the whole shemozzle of real world scenarios on here.

Some people are very fragile ... some are reactive ... some not ...

I have given myself permission to stay away if I dont feel good anout anything on here. Play it by ear. Your ear, and your thoughts and feelings. I felt you wanted to stay but did not know how to disconnect from the conflict and drama. I have existed on the forum ... not feeling compfortable with some threads or posters ... and learned to monitor my feelings and not react. Over time ... things can develop or issues vanish. I have been deeply wounded and totally ropable.

Get into your music ... but realise how different music effects you.... experiment ... its one thing we can do in these crazy isolation times ... did you hear gatherings are reduced to only 2 people indoors or outdoors. At least with online, we dont have that worry ...

Good to see you again.

Cheers Appple

@Snowie thanks, and yeah I'll be honest with him. I just don't want to sound rude to him and make him push me away although I feel that way anyway. I suppose he can't drop me by law right? Plus he just prescribed me new meds, so. I understand that he's also limited but he knows that I'm struggling and have no professional support. The GP is ok but not that helpful, it's just him & her.

@Eden1919 yes you're right, and I understand what you mean. I know you're not sticking up for the bullies, am I right in saying that? Thanks anyway, I get what you mean.

@Former-Member oh, I'm sorry to hear that. At least you're still here though.

@Appleblossom thanks for that. Wow that's awful about losing people to suicide and cancer, I'm so sorry. I admire that you don't seem to think what people think of you and have a positive attitude about it like a "take me or leave me" kind of thing. I wish i could be that strong, thank you.

@anonymouse_ yes @Appleblossom does have some good thoughts.

@outlander can't remember if I tagged you or not?

Also I hope no one here hates me - on this thread, the bullies and forums in general.

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Just letting you all know I've decided to take a break again, I just came on tonight to apologise for everything including worrying/distressing/upsetting anyone, I didn't mean for that to happen.

As I mentioned I just don't feel safe, comfortable, etc. here anymore. But I do appreciate those who have been kind to me which is all I wanted from the forums, so thank you.

Please know that I do care about all of you, it's just too distressing and triggering for me on here. This is the last post from me, I won't be coming on any more to check or reply to anything, not sure if I'll be back.

Take care everyone and my sincere apologies again. Please don't hate me and accept my apologies. Best wishes to everyone.

Bye.

PS - won't tag anyone anymore either, just wanted to let you all know once more.

Hey @outlander , just wanted to check in with you. Hope you are doing ok my friend. 💖

Take care @Former-Member.

Too much going on for me right now to be able to say anything more.