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Suffering in silence

LonelyhartContributor29 Jan 2020, 2:55 am AEDT

Suffering in silence

I'm a aussie guy 44 and live alone, I have done for a while as I lost my family members to tragedy after tragedy. I lost my wife and kids because of my inability to open up get the help I needed, now 8 years later I have been in a worse position. No friends no family and no direction for my aching heart or my mind of confused confetti. I try to sleep lots as I am not hurting when I sleep, but if I dream of a loved one I wake crying realize that i'm alone and hate the world more once again..I get up each morning and say today I will go out and find things to do. But I cant do it as there's nowhere to go...Although last Sunday I made it to church but I couldn't muster the courage to talk to anyone...I feel each day I become more invisible and soon no one will miss me here?? Help please anyone 😢

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MDTSenior Contributor29 Jan 2020, 9:13 pm AEDT

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Good onya for tagging @Shaz51

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frogSenior Contributor29 Jan 2020, 9:22 pm AEDT

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Hey @Lonelyhart welcome!

I know the experience of feeling invisible.

The forum has helped me connect to people here and then build a bit of confidence in the outside world.

I like gardening too. It's absorbing for me, and I like being outside. We have a forum community garden. I'll tag you in case you haven't already found it.

Anyway, just wanted to say I read your posts and appreciate how difficult it can be feeling isolated/invisible. Take care.

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AdgeSenior Contributor29 Jan 2020, 9:23 pm AEDT

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Hi @Lonelyhart I live alone too (past 9 years), not by choice.

Separated for 9 years.

I'm sorry to hear that you feel largely invisible to other people - I know that feeling very well, unfortunately.

The only time (mostly) that I do not seem invisible to others - is when I stuff up (eg at work), or when people do not like what I'm doing (or how I'm doing it).

Then I am suddenly very visible, for the wrong reasons....

I'm too tired tonight to say much - just wanted to say hello, & hope you find helpful connections here.

Adge

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor30 Jan 2020, 2:33 am AEDT

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@Lonelyhart Hey Lonelyhart am online now for a coupe of hours before I go for my walk. Hopefully you are asleep. If not and you are awake and want to talk I am here. Love greenpea ps: dont forget to use the @ in front of peoples names so that they can see you messages.

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LonelyhartContributor30 Jan 2020, 3:22 am AEDT

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Hi @Bunniekins I'm ok now thank yo I'm trying to stay positive and focused ,but my head is like a rollercoaster ride inside. Its 12.20 PM here and I lay in bed total darkness and it's like a projector screen of all my faults and failures lights up the room🙁.I honestly have never felt so helpless to my own life...:face_with_rolling_eyes:

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BunniekinsSenior Contributor30 Jan 2020, 3:35 am AEDT

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@Lonelyhart Hey Lonelyhart can you get up and make yourself a cup of tea? turn on some soft music and distract yourself for awhile.It will be ok once you have reached rock bottom the only way is up my friend.

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LonelyhartContributor30 Jan 2020, 3:45 am AEDT