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NikNikSenior Contributor
Hi All,
"Why do you stay?" a common question asked by friends, family and professionals.
This week's Topic Tuesday, we heard from the experts (forum members!) on some of the positives of caring for someone and some of the strategies they use to maintain a positive relationship with the person you care for.
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EagleSenior Contributor
Thanks JT - doesn't always work... but it's good from a communication point of view.
Well all, I have to get some dinner - very interesting chat. Wish I could stick around but I'm looking forward to reading back over the chat later on.
You're all awesome - thanks for sharing 🙂
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Alessandra1992Senior Contributor
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Alessandra1992Senior Contributor
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JTSenior Contributor
You are welcome to use it, and it covers so many situations 
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CherryBombSenior Contributor
So far there's been some great points about setting about boundaries while also sticking by your loved one's side. I love your point @Alessandra1992 about having an unconditional positive regard for one another.
It make me wonder about things that you need in a relationship? What are something that you can't do without in a relationship?
For me it's:
- Reflection - having time and space to understand oneself. This helps me understand what I bring to the relationship, how it affects my partner, and it allows me to understand him, and vice versa.
- Humour - I love laughing off the little things. It also helps to let go of grudges and look at things in more upbeat way.
- Communication - don't bottle things up, they just build up.
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Alessandra1992Senior Contributor
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JTSenior Contributor
Humour - I believe that a good laugh can often wash away the biggest trouble
Respect - for each others' right to be an individual within the relationship
Communication - the ability to communicate in some form
Understanding - of boundaries, limits....and wtf days 
I didn't get any of the above hence my lack of a partner now lol but I truly hope that my children share some of those values in our relationships and that they carry them on into theirs in the future.
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CherryBombSenior Contributor
Great list JT! I reckon, understanding and acceptance of boundaries, limits and wtf days is great one.
It's great to hear that you have stuck to these too and have stood firm in what you are not willing to go without it.
We got another 15 minutes before we finish up. So please start finishing up your comments.
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Alessandra1992Senior Contributor
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