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Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

For this event we have special guest @Former-Member who is the Manager of the SANE Australia Help Centre and supports the counsellors both clinically and operationally. @Former-Member has extensive experience as a counsellor in the Mental Health sector and has worked with both people whom live with mental health issues and their carers or family and friends.

We will be idea and knowledge sharing around tools and reflecting on feelings that can come up for you as the supporter/loved one/carer and balancing your own wellbeing.

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

@Teej @Former-Member @Shaz51 @outlander

It is clear that a theme is emerging that I am observing and that is that you all have incredible self-awareness and you can name what is happening and the process you're in. This awareness is so important even though it feels like you can't change your circumstances. It's important to try and focus what it is you can control and that maybe just little things day to day.

In response to: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

A bit late!! Hi Everyone!!

@Former-Member @Former-Member @outlander @Teej @Adge

In response to: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

ideas I have for the tool box are:

  • Not responding with a sense of urgency
  • Changing the ways you do respond
  • Enlisting the support of others
  • Acknowledging that sometimes all you can do is listen and let them know you are there
  • Before you go to bed write down 3 things that you are going to achieve the next day that are responsive to your needs.
  • Turning your phone off and not being available to anyone for periods of time
  • Doing things that are fun and make you laugh

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Welcome @Fracturedlight

In response to: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

how do we show our loved one we are there for them- lets see what the community here can share with you on that too!

@Former-Member, @Former-Member , @Spirit1

being there for them

even doing our own self care in the midst of our loved ones

like with my mum , having morning tea with her , or just dropping in each day to say hello or ringing her up

with my mr shaz , sitting together watched shows we taped

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Hi @Fracturedlight welcome! Glad you have come along tonight ⭐️

In response to: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Lovely ideas for the tool box.

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Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

@Shaz51 Yeah not overthinking it too much, just being.

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

they are all great ides for a toolbox @Former-Member , thank you xx

except for this one ---- Enlisting the support of others, sorry

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Excellent - I like your toolbox strategies @Former-Member

I do some of them -

like responding less urgently

Listening well

Trying to think of how to meet my needs - largely unmet.

Turning phone off occasionally

I have to work on finding & enjoying fun (de-stressing) things - I currently don't have any really.

Adge

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