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Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember24 Sept 2019, 12:50 pm AEST

Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

For this event we have special guest @Former-Member who is the Manager of the SANE Australia Help Centre and supports the counsellors both clinically and operationally. @Former-Member has extensive experience as a counsellor in the Mental Health sector and has worked with both people whom live with mental health issues and their carers or family and friends.

We will be idea and knowledge sharing around tools and reflecting on feelings that can come up for you as the supporter/loved one/carer and balancing your own wellbeing.

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember22 Oct 2019, 9:03 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

I like the idea of being in nature and animals too - that always helps me feel connected with myself!

Unfortunately its that time of the night where we have to wrap up! It has been such a wonderful night. So grateful to everyone for their openness and sharing of support, advice and strategies. A HUGE thank you to @Former-Member for sharing her knowledge and insight tonight with us all - it was so meaningful and valuable.

I did a little collection of some of the toolbox we put together tonight for you all to have here and be reminded of.

While we do close this thread/event tomorrow morning - you are welcome to continue the discussion and support in this thread here: Helping a loved one who doesn't want help

Thanks all and take care 🧡

TOOLBOX for useful things to help support ourselves and loved ones (sorry if I missed some!) :

Not responding with a sense of urgency
Changing the ways you do respond
Enlisting the support of others
Acknowledging that sometimes all you can do is listen and let them know you are there
Before you go to bed write down 3 things that you are going to achieve the next day that are responsive to your needs.
Turning your phone off and not being available to anyone for periods of time
Doing things that are fun and make you laugh

take time out for myself even for a few minutes
go for a scenic drive
listen to music
exercise
watch a movie
read a book
colouring in
take a step back when it gets tough
acknowledging that you can’t 'fix' them, only the person going through it can work on their mental health is a big one. It’s hard but important.
sometimes asking the person what they need in a specific way helps.
Also a constant reminder that you are their if they need anything and that they are loved.
being there for them
even doing our own self care in the midst of our loved ones
having morning tea with them or just dropping in each day to say hello or ringing them up
Breathing meditation (incorporating Mindfulness)

In response to: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember22 Oct 2019, 9:03 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

so true @Fracturedlight but giving to others can be so helpful. Often when responding to others we are responding to a need in ourselves.

In response to: Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember22 Oct 2019, 9:04 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Thank-you everyone for your lovely insights and for having me.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor22 Oct 2019, 9:06 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

thank you soo much @Former-Member

hope to see you around sometimes

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Spirit1Casual Contributor22 Oct 2019, 9:15 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // What can you do when a loved one doesn't want help? // Tues 22 Oct, 7pm AEDT

Thanks everyone ❤️

@Former-Member @Shaz51 @Former-Member @Former-Member @Teej

so new to this - l couldn’t find everyone to tag but thank you

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