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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Mazarita it is interesting isnt it that a mi can do so much damage lol .... now is the time to repair the damage done. I am so lucky my ex came over yesterday and gave me $100 just to be nice and said I should never worry that I would never be alone. How nice was that. I am not scared of being alone or lonely but I was becoming scared of never being like I was in the past.

To have this evil mi that keeps on morphing and changing like it did for awhile I thought I would never get over it and now it seems I have reached a point where I am.

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Good morning @Mazarita @Bunniekins @Appleblossom @Sophia1 and others who might pass here today.

@Appleblossom Well done for letting her go. What a shame, but looking after yourself has to come first. Thank goodness for your music.

@Mazarita I hope you get to your appointments today and get some relief from the physio treatment. Glad to hear you got some sleep last night.

@Sophia1 4 weeks already? This year is going so fast. Well done. I hope things are steadily improving.

@Bunniekins snoring keeps me awake too. But I sleep alone these days so it's not a regular issue. One partner I had used to be like a crescendo with apnoeas in between waves of snoring - I used to wake up and then lie there waiting for him to snore again coz at least that meant he was breathing!

Things have improved a little with my adult child. I was allowed a short skype with my grand daughter yesterday. She lifts my heart. She was showing me her latest skill - tap dancing!

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@eth Good morning eth hoping you are feeling calm and peaceful today 🙂

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@Bunniekins, even in my rapid cycling state, I know I am a lot better off than I was when younger, so I personally don't share the wish to be as I was. I feel this condition has been with me all my life, in various manifestations. I believe in the genetic theory about it, that it's 80% due to genetics (Black Dog Institute), and hence a lifelong condition. It's good to hear that you are progressing beyond earlier chaotic states too. How wonderful, your friendship with your ex. I am still friends with my first boyfriend and FB friends with my ex husband (but it took him 13 years to want anything to do with me from when we broke up).

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Snap! @Bunniekins we were typing at the same time. That's wonderful that you feel reconciled with your MH currently.

Snap! with you too @Mazarita.

It's nice to hear you each have positive contact with your exes.

I feel the same as you do about getting back to who I was @Mazarita - way too much chaos, left so many good people behind with my bolting habit and yes @Bunniekins I used to have raging angry outbursts too.

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Hi @eth, good to see you as usual. Anything in mind to do today?

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good morning all @eth @Mazarita @Bunniekins @Appleblossom @Teej

I know that each and everyone of you will understand when I say that I have no words of comfort this morning....only too many emotions....am running out of everything...

have first real appointment with psychiatrist this morning since going into hospital...

having been on a whirlwind ride with so many different medical people with so many differing opinions re my medication I am relieved to be back with my sessions...

New gp is meddling with my antidepressant insisting that is a painkiller and I must increase as I decrease stronger painkiller that cannot stay on...I have agreed to increase by 10mg but have told him no higher as had side effects when increased for depression a while back...need to check with psychiatrist what dosage that was...

no contact from mother still....no contact from twin re visit last tuesday or today...

call from relative whom I cannot mention...clearly unwell...listened so that person knew someone was listening...hurts..enough said...thank you all for respecting my wishes also...

knowing that each of you are dealing with your own struggles...am here in the background for you...

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@eth I used to hold my exs nose to wake him up when he was snoring then would roll him over on his side. I thought many awful things to do to him I was so sleep deprived lol.

@Mazarita That is interesting that you feel yours was lifelong. Mine came on in acute stages then would disappear so it was never diagnosed until recently. Makes me wonder about my kidults 80% genetic doesnt bode well for them as there is depression on my exs side of the family. Oh well what can you do but soldier on and hope for the best.

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No plans for today yet @Mazarita. Had a shower and washed my hair yesterday so feeling physically fresher but not completely awake yet - slept on and off til less than an hour ago.

Sending love @Sophia1 Forgive me but I'm not sure what wishes I should be respecting - can you please remind me. If it's not to tag you I'm sorry. Won't do it again unless you tag me and say it's ok. Very sorry to hear about the lack of family support for you at this time. Hope it goes well with your psychiatrist.

@Bunniekins My bipolar 1 has been since my teens (now 54) so virtually life long. And there's no cure, just med management and self management, so it will be for life unless the medicos come up with a cure. PTSD gradually became more complex since I was very young with recurrent traumas, and the two impact on each other. So I am accepting and compliant with meds as there's no way I want to return to the pre-diagnosis years. A roller coaster wouldn't be as wild!

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@Sophia1 Hi Sophia1 thankyou for your post you would be forgiven for writing just a few words considering everything that you are going through but the fact that you keep posting is wonderful as you are always in our minds and hearts. Hoping you have a kind and compassionate day. greenpea xxx

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