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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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I've been a bit less good on the planning front since I got back from down south, @eth. I think I'd got to a really good place with it before the trip really. But the excitement and unusual events of down there seem to have left me restless and impatient with the mundane aspects of just living day to day, week to week, with the life I mostly have. Could be the med change too. Being on a different mood stabiliser is likely to alter me and how I am day to day. Hopefully it will even out a bit over time and the new med will be even better than the old. I'm about to start week three of the switchover tomorrow night. Still on a lower dose of the old med, while increasing the new one again.

No couch is hard. Totally understandable that you would sit on the bed and that it might lead to sleepiness. I tend to start falling asleep when I sit in my armchair too, so that's not always the answer. Upright chairs sound pretty hard to have to sit on most of the day though, so I can see how it would be unsuitable in some ways in the cabin. Hopefully this will change eventually, when you move into the house at some future time.

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Hoping for improvements for us both @Mazarita.

There are pros and cons about moving into the front of the house. Pros are 3 rooms instead of 1 and a great stove in a large kitchen plus my own bathroom. Cons are close to a busy street with lots of vehicle traffic and sirens and people being noisy as they pass by on weekend nights. That will take a lot of getting used to. But overall I think the pros outweigh the cons, as long as I don't get hypervigilant again.

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I'm trying a technique with my general anxieties and tendency to hypervigilance, @eth, especially with the jets that fly so close so many times per day. I'm trying to 'catch' myself in the act of fearing that they are going to fall on my head (which I do all the time) and recognise it and kind of move the thought to one side of my mind. I say to myself, 'oh, it's one of those thoughts again', and gently move it aside. It's still there but less central to my mind, so a bit less troubling. This was from something my psychologist said about it. Don't know if it would work for others but it seems to be helping me a bit.

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Good idea @Mazarita. Glad to hear it's helping.

I've actually put the jug on to make hot water for washing dishes (well overdue). That's another pro in the house - I don't have hot water in the cabin unless I use the jug. So I'm going to sign off for a while. Thanks for the chat this morning, it's got me a bit more clear and motivated. Hope you have a peaceful day.

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See you later, @eth. Chatting with you has woken me up more and made me happier today. Thanks for your friendship, as always. ox

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Me too @Mazarita. Dishes are done!!

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Awesome, @eth! I have also just given myself a thorough wash, dressed, made the bed. I asked C to put some fisiocrem on my legs (hard to do myself these days, hard to get down there). It's given some relief. Just waiting now to see if my friend will have us for another visit today.

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the Pros sounds really good about moving .into the front of the house @eth

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@eth Hi eth yes well I went back to bed and have only just got up and feel much better for it. Have my ex coming back with son and will have early dinner before he leaves again. Other than that nothing happening will be another hot one so wont go for a walk sadly maybe should invest in a exercise bike.

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Good morning everyone.

Went to bed late again last night, about 2.30am. Awake again after a few hours. Will be going back to bed soon.

Just wanted to send a morning greeting to all and kind wishes for this day.

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