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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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hugs @Former-Member , I have only washed the dishes today , apart from that i have been on the couch doing tv surfing

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afternoon @Former-Member and all

i dont enjoy cleaning but it keeps me distracted and moving as well as a job to do. helps me with coping abit. ive got other ways to cope too but sometimes i need to get up and move and when its really early or really late cleaning comes in handy. at least it doesn fill my day so much anymore lol.

i wish i could paint/draw like others here too but practice makes perfect. you knit too though and i cant knit for the life of me! we all have different skills

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OH, goodness @outlander please don't think I meant you enjoyed cleaning!

Golly no, nor do I, it's a management process. I hate having to clean in fact. I like things clean, but the doing of it, no, no, I do not like it.

We do indeed have different skills, but drawing is, I believe an inherent talent, while skills like knitting and crochet can be learned. come on over to Craft Corner and we can all have a hand in teaching you to knit or crochet if you'd like to. You'd be most welcome.

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lol yep thats the same as me. sometimes i wish i had a magic wand to just wave around and its all done! @Former-Member

hmm im not sure i really couldnt draw before until i learnt from people here and youtube clips. stick figures were the most i could do before. i often follow the craft thread maybe in the near future when winter comes and im inside more will attempt some knitting. thank you fo the invite though, much appeciated

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Hi @eth, @Former-Member, @CheerBear, @Former-Member, @Catcakes, @outlander, @Shaz51, @Bunniekins and everyone,

Wondering what others are doing this evening. I'm spending time on the computer, Star Trek Voyager on in the background. This afternoon C and I visited my close friend for the first time in her new rental house in the next suburb. It's great! Helped a bit with working out what was in unpacked boxes, which just arrived there in the past couple of days. Helped unpack them a bit. Chatted with her and her brother, who also lives there, sharing the new lease. It was a good afternoon and a nice surprise to be invited.

Dusk descending, glad to feel the cooler air and hear the birds again.

Hope there are soothing moments in your evening.

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Im at a dinner with the fam atm not coping all that well with a dog @Mazarita sounds like a nice day youve had

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Hey @Mazarita and all ☺

So great about your friend! Is she settling in well?

I've been spending my afternoon/evening researching yarns for my next big project. I'm getting frustrated because I can't work out how much I might need, but it's a good kind of frustration maybe - more like a challenge I think. It's exciting to imagine it coming together. Not much else on for me tonight. Tomorrow and Sunday are bigger days so quieter works for me tonight.

Hugs @outlander. That's a hard one for you.

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@outlander, I understand your anxiety from things I've read you saying. Hugs.

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Hello Mazy @Mazarita,

I'm sitting in my recliner under the fan, waiting for the elusive cool you speak of - I'm sooooooooo tired of being hot!!! I got a few more strips of mowing done this afternoon & I'm buggered {lucky I got some dishes done earlier today}.

Great to hear about your friends new place & that you got to help unpack a bit, you've been along every step of that journey

Looking out the window to the silhouette of the gum trees against an orange sky background. I'm finally seeing a little beauty again, it surrounds us all if our minds aren't blind to it

Niqua

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Claire @outlander

What are having for dinner? How is the family?

Love to you

NN

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