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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Appleblossom HI Appleblossom I will be studying physics introduction course once it starts (apparently there is some kind of problem). So in the mean time I am going to do a refresher course in essays etc. I ahve a degree in politics and philosophy already and started some courses last year but they didnt float my boat so hoping physics will.

I hope you are doing oakish today. xx

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I forgot to wear shoes which convered my toes and wore sandals to the concert, though my skirt was to the ground and everything else kosher. No could see as the orchestra was in front of me.. I guess if someone wants to play uniform police and music police they are not really my type ... just making mountains out of molehills.and certainly wasnt perfect herself though made much of being always right. I am so tired of that kind of immaturity ... need to move on ... cross that option off (recorder group) ... keep open to other people and things in life.

Doctor visit was difficult today. Both my son and I facing up to the seriousness of my son's situation, but the doctor did seem caring.

Thanks @CheerBear Somehow I never learned to grow a thick enough wall. Some of the problems of the ALL inclusion homelessness identity means that I dont put limits on others (as I mentally justify all the down trodden, but leave myself open). Growing a social filter swimming the ocean without dashing my heart on the rocks.

Where I might finally meet a puffer fish.

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thank you @eth for thinking of me here..

I will have a read of the NDIS...

not staying on the forums for too long....

I pushed myself to walk this morning through the sciatic pain...I have to go to the dreaded shops this afternoon...would find it far easier to get back into bed and bawl..

husband has gone to a funeral....a sports person known to him for a long time...I only met him once and felt that the ceremony would open up a floodgate of my grief and tears so decided not to go..

I hope that NDIS are not affecting you...I read their website...with the usual corporation values written to tick boxes...don't let them get to you

sending calm thoughts

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thank you @Bunniekins

sending you the same

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@BunniekinsYou will be a well rounded little pea!

I like crossing over between science and humanities.

It seems with fewer jobs around being active in the education sector is a viable and productive path to travel. Though I am choosing not to study for a little while. Maybe I need to integrate ideas more atm. We are all different!

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@Appleblossom It will be a form of self discipline. I want to get a well paid job and it is the only way I think... I also want to see if I can do it ... study tht is ... after falling apart with mi. It will be interesting to see.

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It is often possible but remember to self care and make use of extensions when needed.

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Hi @Former-Member, forgot to tag you this morning. Glad to see others didn't. It seems like a wise choice to stay home from the funeral, given the stresses you are experiencing at this time. Good on you for getting out walking, despite pain. I hope the shops trip goes well for you. Again, it seems wise to do it, even though the impulse is to stay home. Thinking of you at different times, even when forgetting to tag.

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Hi @Mazarita @Former-Member @Appleblossom @Bunniekins and anyone else around this afternoon.

Following posts here and trying to catch up. It seems a lot has been happening for several of us. Just know that I am sending warm wishes to all those who are having challenges atm and grateful that we encourage each other to self care through empathy.

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Good afternoon, @eth. Just woke from a nap. Warm out again today. We went to a cafe for our womens group and sat outside, so not much relief from the heat there and was sweating a lot again. Then visited a couple of op shops but didn't buy anything. Then chemist and home on the bus. I have bought some aloe vera juice, recommended to me by my friend to ease my intestinal issues. Worth a try. Also got an alternative form of soluble fibre, since the regular brand that everyone mostly takes made me sick. Again, worth a try.

I finally spoke to my GP about the horrible appointment I had with the gastroenterologist a while back. She is sending me back to the colo-rectal surgeon to see if there's anything that can be done there. If I don't get any assistance there, she will send me to the gastroenterology department of a different hospital. It's further away but may be worth it, as they have a specialist clinic in inflammatory bowel disease there.

I'm tired today, and still somewhat depressed after yesterday's friend loss. It may also have something to do with the lower dose of anti-depressants too. Hoping tomorrow is a better day.

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