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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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I’m just going to sneak in here and scatter a few hugs about for everybody ..... I have received so many tonight that I am dropping a few ..... so if you pick any up, hold them close ..... here for each other.

💜💗💚💐☔️🐠🌷

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@Faith-and-Hope👫

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@Former-Member

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@Appleblossom I may have misinterpreted it but i was tagged with the context i like hearing about father and daughter stories they can be simple...

I'm sorry you have misinterpreted that i am a male.

Torrid is an understatement. it has upset me.

I don't think this forum is going to help me

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@NikNak can you please remove me from the forum thank you

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@NikNik

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Hi @Former-Member, just woke up and found your message here. So sorry there has been this problem in communications tonight that has caused you distress.

Just to let you know that @NikNik or another @Former-Member will receive your message about wishing to leave the forums during business hours tomorrow. You can also contact the SANE administration directly by email on team@saneforums.org.

It's easy to make the mistake with gender on this forum as many of us have neutral usernames. Also, it can sometimes help to remember we are all struggling with mental health issues. This sometimes does lead to miscommunications and misunderstandings between members. It's so unfortunate that this is resulting in you feeling like you need to leave the forum, as it seems to have been helping in some ways in the time you have been here so far.

I hope you will be able to get some rest and maybe think on things again in the morning. I don't think there was any malice intended in the message you received, just misunderstanding. But, given what you have been through, it's understandable why you may feel so distressed.

Wishing you well, whatever your decision on this.

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@Former-Member
I got the moderator to remove me before Xmas due to the judgements of another member which triggered me badly.I can see but that @Appleblossum meant no harm to you.I had to return last week due to other members who I missed and have a rapport with,and its a form of connection due to the social impact of my failures in life.I suggest you just log off for a while .

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I am well aware everyone is struggling with issues on here. That's part of the reason i want to leave. It's too much and overwhelming. I don't feel comfortable at the moment. Some comments are just making me more angry.
I do feel compassion & empathy for some threads on here. It's very hard to give someone what they need as well while you're own troubles are heavy/not the same as anothers personal demons or tradegy. I feel like a hipocrit i can't cope with my own so how can i fully relate connect and provide what someone else needs when everyone has had all different journeys. I am so muddled. Just want to scream & shut off

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@Mazarita
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