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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Good afternoon @Former-Member, @outlander, @Former-Member, @Mazarita, @eth

how is everyone today ?? hope you all had a okish day today

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Hi @Shaz51,

It's been a good enough day here. Some parts of it very good, some more like bleurgh. Just woke up from a nap and I think I must have slept on my sore wrist (still wrapped up in a brace from last week). Now it's aching. But the phone call I was expecting about my videos was very good. There will be a small screening of my stuff in Melbourne soon, possibly at the same time I am visiting. That's very good.

How are you my scotrish sister?

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I am okish my scotrish sister @Mazarita

sending you tender healing hugs

It is raining here lots this afternoon , Mr shaz haveing a cancer spots cut out on thursday and taking my mum up to the specialist tomorroew , jobs are building up which is causing mr shaz anxiety

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Hi @Shaz51 @Mazarita

Sending you strength for your support of hubby and mother @Shaz51

Hope your wrist has settled down @Mazarita Wonderful news about the screening of your work. I hope you get to be there when it's on.

Feeling restless here this afternoon. Glad to be getting out tomorrow with the support worker. I'm pretty frustrated at times about not getting around on my own.

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Thank you @eth

Hope your wrist has settled down @Mazarita -- me too

sending you tender hugs @eth

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@Shaz51, lots of doctors appointments as we are getting a bit older, especially when there is MI involved as well, and for you, caring for others. Hope all goes well with the appointments. Also guessing that Mr Shaz getting anxious means that you might be feeling some too. Hugs. Have you had a chance to talk to the GP yet about your anxiety?

@eth, thanks for your good vibes about the screening of my videos. I know the feeling of not being able to get myself out of the flat, but getting bored and frustrated about it. These days less so, but I still experience a lot of boredom and restlessness at times. Glad you've got things on tomorrow. I am looking forward to art group and getting out after some days inside.

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Have you had a chance to talk to the GP yet about your anxiety?-- no not yet @Mazarita

a lot going on a the moment , thank you for your sister caring

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Hope you make it there tomorrow @Mazarita and that recent health problems don't get in the way.

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@Mazarita ...great news about your video screening...im so happy for you ...also the lavevder idea is great..im going to try it myself as i have the same problem with showering...i hope your wrist is feeling better and good luck at group
@Former-Member ...my thoughts are with you at this trying time ..im wishing you all the best for your mri
@eth ...great to hear about the progress of your ndis application...GOOD LUCK
@Shaz51 ...i hope you had a great day...i have a family member that is dealing with skin cancer atm ...my prayers are with you and Mr Shaz
catgirl🐾

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Thank you both @Mazarita @eth

I have been through the full range of emotions today..

he also told me not related to chest pains.....I am going to put them down to anxiety which thought all ..along..

husband has told a couple of friends due to having to pull out of sport commitments....

they have all been understandably shocked and sent loving thoughts..

one friend met me in shops..had tears in her eyes (she is one of friends whose husband has cancer)..she told me to stop thinking about twin..I tried to explain is the twin thing between us..we feel each other's pain..

I also thought to myself ..you have no idea of my long term mental illness..let alone missing son for 15 months now....

I realise that has been my choice not to tell people..I will stick to that choice because I still hear discriminatory and derogatory comments re those of us who are living with this

plus I manage better if contained within my own perameters....if that makes sense..

so I was not criticising her in the least just my mind travelled to those same thoughts..

I use the term pressure cooker with husband...he gets that..

just bubbling...steam rising..take care you might get burnt sort of stuff..

enough of that..

how have your days been ...sounds as though you are both making headway if I remember correctly..

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