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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hello Mazy, Claire, Faith-and-hope, Shaz51, Eth, Cheerbear, Bella, Greenpea, Zoe7 and everyone. The bubs just woker I have to go. Love to you all

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Hi @Mazarita ..... 🌷

Bouncing between east and west coasts I find it too disruptive at the moment to settle with my artwork very much. This is a country town where Inam now though, and I am appreciating all the “living art” and craft around the place ....... a lot of public artworks, mosaics, sculptures ....... even the Christmas decorations are arty and quirky ....,, gave me a belly laugh ......

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@Faith-and-Hope, I had a feeling maybe it would be a hard time for practising art at the moment. Sounds wonderful your appreciation of the local culture where your dad is. A belly laugh from christmas decorations!? What was it about them?

Dear Niqua, it is so good to see you! Happy new year! I gather you are still at your centre. Thanks for finding time to send us love! It warms my heart to think of you looking after the bub. Looking forward to your next message! @Former-Member

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Hi @Former-Member ..... 👋

Decorated craypots to look like wreaths @Mazarita ......😆

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@Faith-and-Hope, haha, ah yes, that's quirky.

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Hi @Mazarita, how are you today

Relaxing day but very very hot at 38 degrees up here, hope it rains , we had lightening last night but no rain

The aircon is struggling a bit , and Mr shaz just said he is starting to get anxious about going back to work , I know he wants to take more time off , he is loving these sleepins

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If I had a magic wand, you and Mr Shaz would retire, @Shaz51. Glad you had some relaxation today and hope the evening is cooler. Also that you get some rain.

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yes Mr shaz would retire tomorrow @Mazarita if he could , i tell him we can cut back but he does not think so

Hello @Former-Member

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Hello Mazy @Mazarita, Claire:heart @outlander, @Faith-and-Hope, @Shaz51, @eth, @Appleblossom. and everyone

It's total maddness here. My child had arranged someone to look after the children as they have a lot of hours work this month, and that someone can't do it - so it looks like I'm it. The eldest grand-girls help, but I don't think they really want to - but I can't do it by myself, my bodies already feeling like extra heavy and getting nasty pangs of discomfort . . . my heads not far behind. It's the break-neck pace from sun-up to sun-down, it's all the stress on all the levels {there's been a lot of weird and not-so-wonderful things happening here}. My child and their partner are fighting often, and not even trying to conceal it.

The first night I got here, someone tried to steal their car. They are worried it's a friend of theirs who is struggling with addiction and acting unusual. Keys and wallets have gone missing. Today my child went to get a persciption filled and was told they'd already been in . . . they hadn't, after working all day, they had to go into the Chemist to try and sort it all out. They said it was a computer 'glitch', but my child and their partner think something's being covered up. I don't know, there's been a few weird things happening. Someone was doing 'burn outs' directly outside the house last night.

I haven't gone camping yet {I'm not sure that I will, I'm exhausted . . . the thought of getting camping stuff together is not a pleasant one right now} - But I did take the dogs to the beach, I drove on my own and it was New Years Day, and there were so many people . . . and dogs {it was a designated off-lead dog beach}. I didn't let them off-lead, and I took them seperately - but it was really quite wonderful 😄 The young fella was so good, with all these other dogs coming up to him - not a grumble; and he loved playing in the waves 😄 🙂 We even had a couple of people come up and talk to us! The little fella was a bit embarrassing, he has an exceptionally loud bark and he used it quite a few times! 😉

I think I've bitten off more than I can chew and I don't think I'm going to get to camping. But I hope what help I can give is better than nothing and that at least I hope I'm not making more stress . . .

I have very little time to be on the computer and as yet, I haven't been able to establish any kind of routine {this household doesn't seem to have one!} So I guess I'm just stuck on blur mode until the end of the month. I'm already feeling that desperate need to return home.

Love to anyone who wants or needs it

Niqua

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Will write a better response in the morning @Former-Member but its soooo good to see you!! ❤❤
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