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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hello @Appleblossom I'm very sorry for the loss of your cat. Creatures are very important to me, as much as people.

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Hahaha @Mazarita ..... I haven’t been fussed with turkey either ..... we have tended to lamb for Christmas ....... I just came across this way of doing a turkey and decided to give it a try ...... and it better work cos we’ll be eating the bl%dy thing for the next week whether it’s nice or not ..... lol ..... well maybe not mr. f&h ..... 😆

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Thank you @Faith-and-Hope @Mazarita @frog @ethfor condolences.

It means a lot to me in many ways. Having people respond with decency and timeliness is very new. I was thinking I had to dig a hole to bury him and getting stressed, but hey wallah I looked on the net.

I talked to my son and we are making plans for a cremation and memorial service when he gets out

It was just good to be able to be scared and vulnerable and confused before I got on with what had to be done.

Thanks again

I just read Sane Speaker Sandy Jeffs article for Nov 17. I really love her attitude and the way she writes. YOU GO GIRL.

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Good morning @Mazarita and all here ☺

@Appleblossom so sorry to hear about your cat. Really feeling for and with you.

@frog I hope you got your deck done and that you do have a *really* relaxing day tomorrow ☺

@Faith-and-Hope your turkey sounds so interesting and I hope it's nice as leftovers (that made me laugh as I've done "this had better work" foods before 😆).

@eth hoping you enjoy your company over the next couple of days. Great to hear your visit earlier went well. I really enjoy catching your happenings when I pop past here.

@Mazarita - you've been on my mind while I have been having my coffee this morning, as you often are. So sorry to hear about your friend and the housing situation continuing. You are an amazing friend, both offline and online. Again wishing I could see some of your creativity through your video, which sounds so nice! 💗

Hoping there's lots of good for all. I may not be around very much for the next couple of days so if I don't catch you, sending my biggest Christmas wishes to all 😊

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Morning @CheerBear How's things? I was a bit (a lot) over ambitious with my deck but I made a good start. It was quite therapeutic but much slower and harder than I thought. Christmas wishes to you too! Have a good few days and catch you soon.

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Merry xmas @eth, @Former-Member, @CheerBear, @Appleblossom, @outlander, @frog, @PeppiPatty and other friends here. Hope there are special moments throughout this day for everyone. Peace and love.

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Merry Christmas @Mazarita! Thanks for the kind wishes. Hope there's some joy and peace in your day too.

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Thanks Maz and merry Christmas to you @Mazarita and @frog and all others here. Hope the day has great in it for you all 💗

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Happy times @Mazarita @Faith-and-Hope @Appleblossom @CheerBear @frog @Former-Member @outlander @PeppiPatty @Former-Member and all who see this today. Hoping for peace and harmony today for you all and thinking of you. Best wishes for the coming year too xxx

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🎄💕 @eth @Mazarita @Appleblossom @frog @PeppiPatty @CheerBear @Former-Member @outlander @Former-Member ..... anyone else around .....
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