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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@frog, sounds like a wise plan with the oil-the-deck job. Hope you get a very relaxed xmas day after finishing this evening. The day here is cruising along fine. Just had roast lamb sandwiches for lunch, yum. Earlier I did some meditation (trying to get into it more again at the moment). Not much else happening. Music still playing. Taking the day as it comes.

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Hi @eth ...... I am preparing ahead too. I am brining a turkey, which I have never done before.

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Sounds interesting @Faith-and-Hope. I've never heard of that before. Wonder what else you do to it and what the end result will be.

@Mazarita glad to hear you're having a relaxing day.

@frog hope you get oiling your deck finished today

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Hi @eth, @frog, @Faith-and-Hope, @CheerBear, afternoon greetings. 🙂

I have been working on an video with a peace theme, chimes with this time of the year.. Now at the point where first draft is uploading to net to be sent to my collaborator, who wrote this piece. I have to use my mobile for the forum when uploading is happening. I am so slow at typing on mobiles!

What is everyone up to this arvo, I wonder...

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Good to hear your creative juice is flowing @Mazarita

I'm just having a quiet afternoon pottering on-line and watching TV. We'll have guests from tomorrow til boxing day so I'm enjoying some private time.

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Hello @eth @Mazarita @Faith-and-Hope

and @frog I am not sure if we have spoken before.

I have had a difficult morning.

I posted a bit of a rambling post on cats earlier.

I did find my King of the Court cat still alive. He came in and ate from my hand and accepted his thyroid pill easily today, but my mamma's boy is dead. It was a "quiet peaceful" death of gradual organ failure I am guessing. Will talk about at next vet visit. He was lying just next to my bedroom door all night and then came inside my bedroom this morning

Not sure how to break it to my son.

Glad I dont have to prepare much for christmas this year, just bring a few things.

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So sorry for your loss @Appleblossom I know how pets can really be a member of the family.

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I am so sorry for your loss too @Appleblossom ...... big cyber hugs ..... will be thinking of you.


@eth the brine is spiced with orange, juice and peel, cinnamon, star anise, mustard seeds, onion, herbs ..... anything and everything you can think of ..... for a day or two, then removed, dried off, and roasted with maple syrup basting.

It’s suppised to keep it tender.

We’ll see ...........................

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Hi everybody 👋

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Hi @Appleblossom, good to see you. Sending condolences. I too remember very painful feelings at the loss of animals we love. I hope your son deals with the loss okay and that you both enjoy your xmas. Ours will be very small scale. Three of us, me, C and our friend nearby. Same crew as last year, which was a great day, also very simply done.

Hi @eth, sorry I disappeared before we got to chat before. Got taken up in a conversation with C. After that, video was finished uploading and I needed to do a few things with that. Glad to hear you are getting a bit of easygoing pottering and telly before a social time for xmas. Hope it's a good one for you!

Hi @Faith-and-Hope, I'm not really into turkey but your way of cooking sounds delicious.

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