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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Really pleased you had sucha relaxing weekend @eth Sometimes that time to ourselves away from everything else with a good book is just what we need. It has been ages since I have done similar (still have the same book on my bedside table that I started over a year ago ). I find with so much work to do the last thing I want to do afterwards is read more - but I really should finish that book so maybe these holidays that should be my number goal 👍

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Thanks @Anastasia and @Zoe7 . Zoe I'm the same and I don't work full-time like you do. I have a pile of books next to the bed and another pile on a shelf that I've collected over 3 years and have only finished 2 in all that time. The one I'm on now I started so long ago that I had to start it again. It's The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy and is a beautiful read. (not religous).

Goodnight to you both. I'm going to watch some shows on my laptop. Reception on my telly is really bad lately. Have a restful night xx

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I'll have to check it out @eth ...and maybe add to my massive pile of books to read also I love books usually - have a room full of them - so we are very similar in that regard. Hope you have a relaxing evening watching on your laptop - I have a little work to do then I am going to snuggle up with Toby and do much the same. Goodnight Hon

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LOL @Adge hearing you

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Hi @Zoe7

Hi @eth

This is Definitely me (my Brain), the past few nights....

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Oh @Adge That sucks buddy ...know what it is like though unfortunately and it is really hard

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That is awesome @Appleblossom ...not silly at all Hon - it is growth in a positive way even though it is 'just' a funny face - and I say 'just' as for you it is way more than that and it is a big deal 👍💖

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@ethWe have a lot going on. My son and I are coming to terms with his version of BiPolar 1. We are talking about the nature of episodes, and how to tell when they are coming on, and what can he actually reasonably be expected to do. He has told me twice this week that he loves me. A month ago he wanted to be very careful about using the love word. So I stopped. He is calling every day, which is good, but its heartbreaking having a disabled child. He was going to try and do his BMus while on heavy meds, did last week, but I am thinking inside he is not going to be able to do it. The meds are not enhancng for pianists, so he might have to take another direction. He needs more support for his actual real situation rather than pushing on with study and collapsing. Study is not the answer to everything.

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