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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@eth, really a long list of symptoms, from overheating to change of overall body shape, yes weight gain (could be bipolar meds as well), increased fatigue, arthritis emerging to the point of needing medication, leg problems, skin getting thinner and rougher, there's more.

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Sorry it's like that for you @Mazarita. I have the skin changes too but just put that down to aging generally. And chronic fatigue is a challenge too but I put that down to depressed periods. The arthritis and leg problems must be a pain in the proverbial. I did have weak legs and bad cramps for a while but they stopped when I changed cholesterol meds.

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I guess it's just that all these things seemed to come at once, with menopause, @eth, though they are no doubt intertwined with other aging and health issues. With the arthritis, it is only the most basic pain reliever I take every day and it works fairly well, so not too bad there now. Without it though, I ache all the time. Yes, cramps have really ramped up in a big way with menopause here too. Anyway, it is funny to be a human sometimes. What a mystery ride it is, this life.

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Hopefully some of those symptoms will diminish as you get further post-menopause @Mazarita. Glad to hear the pain relief is working for the arthritis. Have you had any beach walks lately?

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@eth, haven't been for a beach walk for ages. I was thinking of doing it now, as the tide is about low just at this moment. It's gone a bit overcast and is 31 degrees, but maybe I should do it. Might sign off now and try to do that. I'll be back if I don't make it out there. Hope your cleaning and preparing for your friend goes well today.

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Enjoy @Mazarita!

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Hi @eth, turned into a big day after I got myself out on the beach. Walked the length both ways, then friend rang while I was at the corner shop, so back to her place on the bus I went without first coming home. More chat and some online messages sent, drew her attention to two inspections, one tomorrow and one on Thursday. Then C came over and brought me home. Dinner, chilling out. Now back on the computer. It's still hot (and I am hotter) but there's a cool breeze wafting through the glass doors. Hope you were able to get some things done around the place today, as planned. If not, there is tomorrow.

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Good morning @Mazarita and anyone else around at the moment.

That does sound like a big day @Mazarita. I got my chores done all except for sweeping and heard from friend this morning that she won't be here til the end of the day tomorrow. And then we finished the day with a swim - yes I got all the way in!

So hot in the cabin last night, it didn't cool down til early this morning. I couldn't have the doors open as I don't have screens yet. I have one mozzie curtain but it doesn't fit the door properly so doesn't keep the critters out. A choice between tossing and turning under the fan blowing warm air or being gobbled by blood suckers. I chose the former. And today is forcast to be even hotter - 38 yesterday, 40ish today. I have to keep telling myself I'm used to it from living up north but I don't believe myself! The heat is different here - dry and relentless - whereas up north it would be broken by rain at the end of the day and thus cooler overnight.

Rant over!

Hoping everyone got some good sleep and that you are off to a good start today.

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Good morning, @eth. Wow, that's a hot day where you are. Great that you got in for a swim! Good on you for getting through almost all chores!

Hearing you about the difficulty of last night. I got very sick with a crashing headache, vomiting, running hot and cold in a big way, with sweat streaming. Didn't sleep at all overnight. Woke up C about 1/2 hour before he was due to get ready for work. I was in high distress and crying from how bad the headache was (too painful to put head on pillow). So sick I wondered if I needed to go to hospital. Instead, C went and got me some strong pain reliever from the chemist. Within the hour I fell asleep and only just woke feeling much better. Still quite shaky though. Cancelling first appointment for the day (art group) and will just go out this afternoon for psychologist session. May get more sleep before then as I've only had a couple of hours. There's my rant for this morning. I wonder if I got too much sun yesterday, or too much heat, or if I got dehydrated or something. Such an incredible relief to be feeling better.

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Ouch, @Mazarita

I'm glad you're feeling better today and are planning to take it easy.

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