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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Haha, wiggly fish, @CheerBear.

It must be difficult waking suddenly and so alert like that. It's only happened to me on rare occasions, but I get the impression it's a common experience for you. So good it worked to talk yourself back to sleep this morning. One more brain connection made for better future outcomes, with any luck (if you get what I mean by that!)

I anticipate that I may (gently) tell the psychologist that I'm not keen on being labeled with a personality disorder. I perceive a special kind of stigma reserved for personality disorders. Unfair of course, but, I think, real. My psychiatrist seemed to be suggesting the same, that it wasn't helpful to label me that way. He did say I have avoidant traits, generalised anxiety, social anxiety and an all round anxious disposition. He sees it as worthwhile continuing to work on improving these things. It helps me to get a clearer sense of diagnosis, I think. Not that I want to obsess over it all the time. But at some point it seems good to get some clear diagnostic thoughts on your own condition. Especially after the therapists have been seeing you for a time.

Anyway, I guess it all still is revolving in my mind a fair bit, despite feeling like I don't want to worry about it too much until after the talk with my psychologist. I'm trying to 'park up' those emotions, as @Faith-and-Hope sometimes says. Good morning, F&H!

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Good morning @Mazarita .... 🤗💕

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That jolt wake up is an almost daily thing for me @Mazarita and it seems to be one I really struggle to shift. Annoying but accepting it is what it is and doing what I can when I can to help myself with it, is really all I can do. And happy dancing when I can make those brain connections 🙂

I think your planned approach sounds really great. I have been bitten by a PD stigma and the crossover between diagnoses, which is where some of my views on the DSM come into it. If it is helpful for the person at the centre of it all then big tick, but if it isn't then no thanks. Finding a way to use tools like diagnosis in a way that is helpful and works for you, as it seems you're planning on doing, is a great way to go about it.

Love the park up approach (and hi again and also @Faith-and-Hope) 🙂

Shower calling. Hope you have a really good day. Love our morning chats when we have them ❤

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@CheerBear, enjoy the shower. Psychologist suggests I think of washing away old emotions when in the shower. I appreciate your thoughts on PD diagnosis, and your happy dancing. I too love our morning chats. Ciao for now.

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Hi @Mazarita @CheerBear @Faith-and-Hope @Shaz51 @Former-Member hope you're all having a nice start to your days.

@Mazarita I imagine you are asleep by now. I know how not enough sleep for a period can impact on other stuff for you (and me). I'm sorry to hear about the contradiction between psychiatric and psychological diagnoses - how frustrating and confusing that must feel. I reckon I'd be a bit cranky about it if I was in the same situation. I think there's nothing wrong with 'blurting' to the psychologist in the circumstances - I'm sure I would. They need to understand how much turmoil has been caused for you with the new diagnosis and now the contradiction. How much time you've put into finding out more about it only to be told it's inaccurate.

My weekend is very quiet - yesterday I read and napped all day - I was reading 'The Slap' and now I've finished it. It's a weird feeling coming back to the real world after immersion in something like a good book. Then went to the beach in the evening with bro and sil. Beautiful sunset and water not as cold as it often is. They swam with the dog, I paddled but went in up to my chest this time - just couldn't quite take the plunge.

Looking forward to catching up with you soon in real time.

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Good morning, @eth, @Former-Member, just got your 'likes', so thought I'd get in with a start of day greeting. Hope there's good things in store for both of you today.

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SNAP! @Mazarita Did you get some sleep?

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Snap, @eth. We were posting at the same time. I envy your absorption in the book. I have read some Christos Tsiolkas before and was gripped by it. My anti-psychotic medication interferes with my reading and I only really do it on the net now. But remember well that great feeling of being taken to another universe by a good book. And, yes, that odd feeling when you step back into regular reality at the end of it. I hope you find another book to absorb you soon.

Great that you went to the beach and went in up to your chest. In my walks I sometimes feel like I want to be in the water but somehow I have a block about doing it. Maybe this summer I might get in for a dip. There's even a pool in this complex that I don't use!

No sleep yet. Won't be too far away I daresay.

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@Mazarita Sometimes I walk in the water - the resistance makes a strengthening exercise. I've been missing my swims at the heated pool that we started to do. Bro just came and we're heading out to Bunnings so I'll have to catch up with you some more at another time. I don't need anything but it would be good to get out of the cabin.

Sleep well when you do my frend.

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Enjoy the break out of the cabin, @eth.

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