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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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I totally agree @cutiepiekitty

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@eth

I should never have spoken im going back to being a pro

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@eth I am blessed that B has that connection with me.

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I'm sorry if I've triggered a reaction, don't understand why you would say that @Former-Member

Take care of you please.

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Its great people appreciated you and you have found a creative way to make the best out of the gift of a scarf,

@cutiepiekitty

Fear of rejection can go deep and when good things happen we might freeze up a lot. I am fine at first but when I think the person actually likes me I panic.

With time and goodwill I hope things work out.

@Former-Member Hearing you about many things. I was a little sceptical of yoga teachers went to only a few, but had a gym membership from the age of 42-50. It did save my life. Yes I had an exercise physiologist who made the difference for me too. I saw him every 6 weeks for a year and that put my whole approach to exercise in perspective. He left and I went to a cheaper gym, but found I could read between the lines and work with my own body even if I saw only a cert 4 rehab person. Great gratitude for him and I used to see his mum at the supermarket and tell her. My osteo recently said she never thought I would improve as much as I have. It was time at my exercises on the floor on various machines or out walking. Coincidentally there is a doctor at that clinic who was also a parent of one of my students. She had the decency to tell me my pain was obvious, back 15 years ago, in a kind way, even though I was trying to cover it up and keep working. At first I stayed away from gyms cos I thought they were a bit superficial, but with good understanding of the body came some relief as my effort was going in the right direction. I also hear how frustrating it is to deal with bodily complaints from people who do not put in the time. I have been too caring too and am trying to be less taken for granted and more assertive.

Glad the piano is feeing you.

Dali Hallucination ...

Different pics provideplenty space between them to find your style.

Cheers Long Ravers

Not everyone in Melbourne is horrible, but I know what you mean,

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hello my @eth , @Appleblossom , @Former-Member , @cutiepiekitty , @Mazarita

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@Shaz51

Im going away. I wont be back.

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@Shaz51

Im closing my acct. I stay alone

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@Former-Member

I hope you will alright and I did not upset you?

Pink Iris

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@Appleblossom

U didnt upset me. Ive been on my own all my life.

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