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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Me too, even though this house hurts sometimes, the security means so much @Mazarita. This time last year we were still in refuge and still without a house. We had it offered to us towards the end of this week (on the Thursday I think), but still had another week until we could move in. We left the refuge (did a throw things into the car and run away quickly) on the Saturday and spent from then until the next Thursday literally scrambling to find a roof. Bit of a spill sorry. Housing is scary 🙁

I think it was us that had the tech chat. Box brownie camera, records and casettes. Nothing to do with battleship haha.

Breeze sounds great. Menopause does not at all! I feel like whinging about PMS problems often and then think maybe I will just suck it up a little because what comes next sounds worse! Heat sensitivity in the heat - yuck!

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Hahaha, you are right, @CheerBear, we did have the tech chat. I think that tech we were speaking of - box brownies, cassettes, vinyl - seem so old now I unconsciously don't think of them as tech now.

Please go ahead and whinge about PMS. It is just as bad, worse for some, and goes on longer. Although I have a friend I see occasionally who is 60 now and says she's had the excessive heat in an ongoing way since menopause. Eeeek.

I'm glad you feel able to spill with me. You have come a long way in a year. I admire your strength and resilience.

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Haha - maybe they're not tech, they're antiques @Mazarita!

That sounds so unfair with your friend! Sometimes I curse my ovaries because I feel like they've done the job they needed to do for me to get the littles, and now it's time to stop launching what seems like a full scale attack on my insides and my mind. They just need to chill for a bit really. Menopause seems like a similar deal maybe. Totally unnecessary 😆

Thank you Maz for both seeing that I have made progress and for reminding me. And for walking alongside me this year. You are, just, great.

I'm teary in a nice way. Annoying hormones 😉

❤

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@CheerBear...

(cos that image is too good not to keep sharing)

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Awww that one is all shades of warm fuzzies @Mazarita. It's so "here". ❤ Thank you

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@CheerBear, do you have plans for today? I hope I haven't already asked you that. My memory seems a bit vague this morning.

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Not really any plans @Mazarita. The LF are in big kinds of 'classes' (it's an unusual way to do things) and they want to make a little something for each of their classmates for the end of the year which is pretty epic. I think that will be finished off today. Lots of help with gluing glittery stuff with one, and making batches of sugar cookie dough with another. I'd like to get that done so things don't start to add up too much. It's a bit of a busy time here. Perfect weather for blanketing later too and I have just hit another colour change so might do that tonight.

Good day ahead hopefully. Quiet nice crafty stuff. Also could turn ugly depending on LF attitudes but crossing fingers haha.

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Speaking of, I hear feet. I'm going to head off for a while. So lovely to see you again this morning @Mazarita. Mornings with you have been some of the great of this year.

Hope you stay cool enough today 😎😆❤

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Sounds like a fun day with the LF ahead of you, @CheerBear. I hope moods flow well. Great to hear the updates on the blanket and to imagine you doing that. I keep thinking I should get out the colouring book on these kinds of wet days. I enjoy colouring when I'm at art group, especially the meditative aspect of it. I may just do that today. I already have done a couple in the book, which I bought from ebay and really has lovely images to colour. It seems you and I both are naturally into the healing energies of colour therapy. I have made some fairly colourful videos too.

Edit: just saw your last message. Have a great one, CB. It's always great chatting with you.

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Hope the colouring in feels good for you @Mazarita. I love the idea of colour therapy, especially with lovely images to work with 😊 It is so healing. Our sugar cookies and glitter craft is maybe a bit of little person version of colour therapy (though maybe more mess/noise/play therapy - also pretty great sometimes!). The cookies are three colours rolled together and it feels and looks like playdough (maybe not the best to eat but okay in small amounts haha)

Now I really am heading off for a while! Shower calling.

Hope the day is enjoyable/peaceful/good feelingish ❤
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