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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hi, welcome back, and all the best for your assessment today @eth 💕

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@eth good luck. Take care.

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Hey @eth I'll be thinking about you today at 10am, I hope you're not too overwhelmed by the male instructor and the roads. I'm sure they will take you somewhere quiet. But speak up if you're uncomfortable it's a process something that can't be done in one session so be super kind to yourself

Angels333 xxxx

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@eth

Ill b thinking of you today.

A brave step what ur doing.

Lets hope u feel comfortable with the male support today.

When u get a good male, you get a really good one ive found.

Im sure the first steps will b the hardest. First few times i mean.

The freedom ul have in the future might b worth the discomfort now tho.

Bit hard cause uv just moved too.

Lots happening in ur life hey

Take it easy

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yeah not too bad thanks @eth

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Hey @eth

I do hope that your OT thing goes okay.

Driving is understandably causing you a bit of anxiety. I do hope you get through the training though.

Be kind to yourself please

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Hope you have a fulfilling day @Angels333. It sounds like you've got plenty to keep you busy. Sending good vibes to your daughter for her exams 👍👍

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Thanks @Angels333 @Faith-and-Hope and all. I really need support right now. My coordinator of supports (female) had just told me she won't be here. So I have to meet with 2 males I've never met before and am expected to go out on-road with one of them alone. Feeling shattered, peak anxiety and crying. It's f'd up and another confirmation that I need to find a new CoS. I'll def be doing a formal complaint to her manager, but that doesn't help me get thru' the next 3 hours.

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Oh @eth .... hearing you ...... Is your brother or SIL around for support ?

Surely you can ask for, and expect to be granted, a chaperone to be present ?

There are people who have that requirement for cultural or religious reasons. There must be a way to have that authorised as your mental health support ?

Who can you think of to get there with you today ? Someone from bridge, or your cooking circle ? Call someone you know and ask them to come and be with you Hon.

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Still here with you @eth ....

💜💜💜

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