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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hi @eth I haven’t had notifications either, just logged in now and it’s the first time in about 5 days that there is a notification - haven’t been getting the notification emails either

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Hi @Razzle – and others who may have the same issue.
That sounds frustrating that you haven't received your notifications. If the problem persists, please do get in touch with us via email and let us know: team@saneforums.org

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Hi @Maggie , thank you for ur kind words. Yes it is a real struggle,I am finding it difficult to cope and missing my husband more than words can say. It's such a difficult time and I just don't know how I'm going to get thru it.

Thank u for ur warm wishes.

Doglover 💜

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thank u @eth for ur kind words and thoughts, I rly appreciate it. I hope things will start to improve too. Thank u for thinking of me.

Doglover 💜

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@Doglover You are doing the best you can, you can’t do better than that. Missing your husband on top of everything makes it so much harder.

We are all behind you here. 💜💕💜

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Thanks @Maggie for ur kind words,I rly appreciate it. Struggling with out of control anxiety. It's a tough road.

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Hi @Razzle nice to see you. Hope today is going well for you so far.

Hello @Doglover thinking of you and sitting with you still today. Hoping you have found staff there supportive and someone you can talk with openly and safely. Take care xx

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Hi @Former-Member @Gazza75 @Faith-and-Hope sorry I didn't respond yesterday. Logged out for a while to do some handstitching of a new cover for my exercise bike which lives outside. Then just when I came back on my bro invited me to go for a walk with him. We had a cafe hit while out and a nice chat. I didn't get back on here after that - it really tired me out so I sat down to watch telly and fell asleep.

Hope today is unfolding nicely and is one of the better ones for you all xx

I'm going out with a support worker to water tai chi and then my GP for some test results. Figuring they would have rung me if there was anything to be concerned about.

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Hi @Zoe7 hoping you're having a better day with the kids today. Your craft project sounds amazing. They are lucky to have you xx

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Hi @eth , sounds like a nice busy day for you yesterday. Hope you have a good time at water tai chi, i always get a smile when I read about you doing that. Makes me think of swimming in the pool and being in a sauna. The ladies (mostly) used to do aqua aerobics at the centre I used to vist. They were a great bunch of people and helped me when I was feeling pretty down and depressed about things. Have a wonderful day and thanks for the shout out. 🙂

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