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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hi @eth , thanks so much for thinking of me and for ur support, I appreciate it. Tbh I haven't had much support from the forum since being in hospital, I'm not sure why. But I do rly appreciate ur support. I am doing it rly tough in hospital, struggling big time. Crying a lot, not knowing what to do with myself, agitated and restless so can't sit still or stick at anything I try to do. Just in a really bad way.

I hope u r doing well Eth and managing to maintain that better balance in ur life betwn online and offline world.

Thanks again for your thoughts

Doglover 💜

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@Doglover It’s sounding really tough for you. I know hospital can be scary, I’ve been there many times. Sending you warm thoughts, hoping for some light in your journey. 💕💜💕

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@eth Thanks for the tag. Just back from a medical appointment, will check in later, need a coffee break. ☕️☕️☕️💕

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Hey @Gazza75 @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Maggie @Angels333

I'm ok, thanks for asking. Just a quiet day at home today. Heading out for a walk with bro now.

@Doglover sending my warmest wishes and the hope that things start to improve for you xx

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Sorry to hear that you are struggling @Doglover how are the meds going? Are you having prn, can you take it ?

Thinking about you xxx

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So, SH is controlling my life atm.

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@Angels333 @eth and others passing through the rave... Been a bit of a stressful day today but home now and having some time to myself until I get back into work tonight. Tomorrow is a new day ...and hopefully a new attitude from the kids!

@Angels333 What can you do now to distract yourself Hon? Have you got dinner organised?

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@Doglover maybe all the notifications haven't been getting through as I've noticed lots of supports for you each day. Please don't think that you're not supported in hospital xxx

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@Zoe7 , sorry the kids were stressful today and that you're all worn out.

I have planned dinner thanks, despite my failings today this evening is my choice and I choose control.

Love Angels333

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That is positive @Angels333 Try not to look back on today but instead relaxing tonight - dinner is a good start

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