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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Shout out too all the people in this forum.

I am new to it but I definitely think it’s a great thing everyone is on here talking about their issues.

If I knew this forum existed 6 months ago I could have been in a much better place now. Hindsight is funny though and I can only control today.

keep fighting people!

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Hey @Macca00 ,

Nice to see you getting around a bit. It's one day at a time for most of us I think. You sound in a much better place now 🙂

Take care mate 🙂

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Hey @eth A better day today but still so much to do tonight. Hope you had a good day - haven't read over much so not sure what you were up to. It is Tuesday so I suspect you had water tai chi - hope it was relaxing

@Macca00 Welcome to the forum. Hope you find it a helpful and supportive place for you

@Gazza75 @Bunniekins Hi to you both - hope your days were okay too

@Doglover Haven't heard from you for a while so hope you are getting the help and support you need in hospital.

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Anyone else find they seem to be talking one thing and the other person is totally on some other tangent that suits them? Justtotally fell in a heap because the guy that does the gardening and contracting with the drug rehab guys came. T had said she would get him to come and see about removing the rubbish I am trying to get rid of. He kept going on about bringing in a team of men for a few hours at $110 an hour but he wanted to be paid in advance because others say they would pay and then didn't and kept on about how many hours I would pay for and things. Totally melted down. I CANNOT stand having someone come in to go through my stuff. I know I have a lot of junk to get rid of, but I don't want anyone doing it FOR me. I made the mistake a few years ago of letting someone come in to "help" clean some things. That is part of the reason I am where I am now. They scooped up and threw out everything they could get their hands on, including shoes, books, photos, cd;s, and a lot of other stuff, some of which was not even mine that I am still having to slowly pay for! Now it seems that if I want rubbish taken away I am being told that I have to go through that invasion and abuse again. I just cannot do it. I can get a skip bin, but there are none available for at least a month. Should I just tell them that I will keep my rubbish until I can get one, or take the chance on them trying to force their way in? And how do I convince them I do not want or need a team of men here for hours when all I need is the rubbish taken away? My brain and body are telling me to keep them right away and tell them they are being abusive. But then again my brain is telling me that I am over reacting and that I should be able to tell them to not spend hours, just take the rubbish. But I do not know how or if I can do that. I am not making a lot of sense in my own mind at the moment, so I probably am not making a lot of sense here either. Should I just wait and see what happens or cancel them or try to force them to understand or what? I have sent T a message but don't know if it made any sense telling her that he did not understand and was not much use and did not listen. I feel that my brain is just in overdrive and am trying to get it to slow down.

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Hi @cutiepiekitty

I think you should be able to make it so that they just take the rubbish. No one should force their way in to your home and go through your stuff without your consent.

I hope you can find a solution and be relaxed about it all.

Angels333

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Hi @eth , thank u for thinking of me and for ur support.

Things aren't going too well, my symptoms r out of control. I can't begin to describe how torturous they are. The physical head symptoms especially,as well as burning sensation throughout my body, plus lots more. It's just horrible. I wish I cld hav better news but I just don't at the moment.

I hope you are doing ok Eth.

Thanks again for thinking of me.

Doglover Xxx 💜

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Hi @Zoe7 , thank u for thinking of me. Things r pretty bad atm. My symptoms r just out of control, especially my head symptoms. Too hard to describe but absolutely torturous. I'm doing it so tough I can't even out it into words. The Dr reckons it's psychosomatic, I'd like him to experience this then see if he still feels the same!!

Anyway, I hope u r doing well Zoe and taking good care of urself..

Doglover Xxx 💜

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@Doglover I am so sorry to hear about so much pain you are going through and mentally as well, and for that pssyc to turn around and say it's all in your head is horrible and shouldn't be practising either.

Are you still in hospital where they can monitor you and try to help you with. Everything.

You will be in my prayers tonight and hope that each day you can feel a bit better.

Hugs for you🤗💖

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A Big Hi and Good Morning to @Zoe7 @Mazarita @saturnzoon @Doglover @Angels333 @eth @Former-Member @cutiepiekitty @Adge wishing you all a kind and caring Wednesday. Lots of love peaxxx

Special shout out to @Exoplanet wishing you well hunny. Always in my thoughts.xxx

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Good Morning @Bunniekins xxx I hope you're feeling well today!

@Doglover Sorry to hear you are in pain 😭 I really hope the symptoms subside for you. I hear that you are missing your husband it's so understandable. Keep us updated as to how you're feeling. Praying for some improvement and relief from pain for you.

Good morning @MDT @Adge @outlander

@Owlunar @saturnzoon @cutiepiekitty

@Appleblossom @Zoe7 @eth

I'm struggling with the same old issues SH etc I haven't much on today, the gym then a Drs appointment at midday.

Hoping you all have a good day today and you're all keeping warm in this cold weather. I suffer from SAD Seasonal Affective disorder and always struggle more in the winter, does anyone else here suffer from SAD? So Keep Warm forum buddies xxx

Love Angels333

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