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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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I am 55 @cutiepiekitty xx when is your birthday

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Hi @Owlunar ,

Thanks for your post. Yes i imagine the first few days are the hardest, am hoping I will settle in befoe too long and find my feet a little. I'm still coming to terms with the fact that I'm in here tbh. Am hoping I will get to know a few more people and fit in and not feel so isolated. I just hope this hospital stay achieves the desired outcome and I can get back to some sort of normality of life before too long.

Anyway, I hope you are oing ok Dec and looking after yourself.

Take care,

Doglover

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Hi @Appleblossom ,

Thank you very much for your kind words. I certainly hope the stay has the desired outcome. Stilll trying to settle in and find my feet. Im a first timer so I guess it's understandable that the first few days are pretty tough. Hopefully this will be worth it in the end and I will be the better for it.

I hope you are doing well Appleblossom.

Take care,

Doglover xxxx

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@Shaz51 feb 25

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Hi @saturnzoon
I agree 100% with @eth s comments, and the others.
It is domestic abuse, so keep that in mind and know you are right in putting a stop to it.

I'm so pleased you have support on here. I have no idea, but maybe even contacting the Sherriffs department would be worth a try.

All the best. hugs 🙂

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Hi @cutiepiekitty We could start a 50's club on here.

I'm 50, so is @Meowmy (I think).

There are several others (at least) as well.

& @Shaz51 (55), as she said.

Adge

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Hi @Adge perhaps we should. We can all make the claim to have survived half a century. I can claim to have arrived between the biggest most destuctive WA earthquake (14 Oct 68) an man walking on the moon. Missed one,can't remember the other! In the craft group I am in there are three of us born in 69 and we are the youngsters. Ages go up drastically from us, and we have ladies into their late 80's. We did have a couple in their 90's but they got too feeble to keep coming. We had a lady attending aged 100 until last year. She was at craft on Thursday and died on friday unexpectedly.

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@saturnzoon Hey saturnzoon how are your sons getting into your bank account? You must stop their ability to do so. As for them getting angry with you can you sit down and talk with them calmly about the finances of the house. Include them in decision making about food for example. I know it seems inpossible atm but my middle son who also has autism has become very responsible with money over the years and actually looks out for bargins when he goes shopping. If they are getting angry at you are they on medication to keep their aggression in check? it is very common for teens with autism to have problems with their tempers. Just remember if you are calm they will hopefully calm down too (I know it can be hard when a big angry male particularly when it is your son gets in your face and you are scared for your own safety). Thinking of you peaxxxx

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Good morning to all the Long Ravers and those who pass by @Mazarita @cutiepiekitty @Adge @BlueBells @eudemonism @saturnzoon @Angels333 @Former-Member @eth @Exoplanet wishing you all a safe and kind Saturday. Loads of love from the peaxxx

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