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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Zoe7 I can imagine the shock of hearing your name after you thought it was anonymous. That would upset me too. Well done for getting to the event.

My day today was a slow morning relaxing after such a full-on several days. Plus a few chores to spruce the place up a bit for the return of bro and sil later tonight. Then I went to water tai chi again with a lady who's in the tuesday class giving me a lift. Then since I got home I've been making a new soup that I'm happy with the results. Description on the feast thread. I thought it would be nice for the others to get home to and the house will smell good too.

Edit : just saw your post about not doing the feast - fair enough. It does get a bit hectic there at times. The soup was spiced tumeric and coconut pumpkin soup and I had it with garlic bread. Soooooooo gooood - I love it when I find a new recipe that I'm happy with..

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Your soup sounds delicious @eth - love pumpkin soup of any kind ...love pumpkin any way it comes really. It will be so good for you bro and sil to return to those lovely smells - nothong like a home cooked meal My sister is cooking lunch on Sunday and I am really looking forward to it - she is a magnificent cook and always considers me with some of the things I cannot eat. Everyone in my family are great cooks ...my Dad makes the best fried rice and Mum has always been a wonderful cook - so I know whoever the cook is in our family it will be a great meal.

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Your Sunday sounds like it will be lovely @Zoe7 I've decided to watch some telly instead tonight. Catch you again sometime soon. xx

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Enjoy your telly watching @eth Going to watch a little myself then hopefully head to bed really soon. Catch you over the weekend some time

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@Zoe7 @Mazarita @eth @Angels333 @TAB @saturnzoon @Adge @CheerBear @Appleblossom @Exoplanet and all who pass I am up! the freezing cold has waken me up. If anyone is up and wants a talk I am here! Love greenpea 🙂

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Good Morning frozen Pea! @Bunniekins 🙂 I lit the fire last night as the Guru said it would be under 5 degrees - but the Guru lied, it barely went under 10, though it was still nice to warm the air a little 😉

CONGRATULATIONS @eth ! You did it I hope Bro, Sil & Mother have all returned home safe & happy & enjoyed the yummy pumkin soup 🙂

Love to all that need or want it

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Oh a frozen pea is not good @Bunniekins Hope you managed to warm up a little and finally got some sleep.

@Exoplanet Good morning. What is on the agenda for today?

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Good Morning @Zoe7 I don't have anything special planned for the day - I'm still trying to talk myself into doing some more mowing & I still have the little gazebo up waiting for me to figure out how to attach it to the back of the car in a way I can unattach it easily. I might bathe & I'd better break some more branches for the fire. Congratulations on going to the ceremony, that took a lot of courage & I'm guessing more than a little inner push to get yourself there 😉

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Thanks @Exoplanet It was a lot easier than I imagined t would be. I was very grateful that the person who came to talk to me did so and was so nice. I actually really enjoyed chatting to her. She was so nice and it made my night.

I also need to mow my backyard - it is getting way too long which will make it a longer job. I may not have enough energy to get it done today though - didn't have a good night and want to go to the market with my sister so will need to have a sleep when I come home.

I love hearing about how you do things. The gazebo atttaching sounds like a tricky one though I am certain you will work something out.

Do you have any plans for another trip soon?

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I am a frozen Pea indeed :D! @Exoplanet your nice cozy fire sounds just the ticket 🙂

OMG eth @eth hasn't gone by so quick and as Exoplanet says contgratulations! gold star for you :D!!

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