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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Zoe7 @Exoplanet @eth am heading back to bed have a great day everyone xxxx

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@Bunniekins Sleep well little pea xxx

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I'm glad to hear you had a nice chat @Zoe7 , those things can be as rare as hens teeth & more precious than diamonds 🙂 I hope you make it to the market with your Sister & find a bootful of bargains whilst your there 😄 I'm always planning the next trip 😉 I'd like to go again next month - just don't know which way I want to go? How's planning those renovations going?

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Going to have to leave the renovations until later in the year @Exoplanet Don't have enough energy with work so most likely will be over the Christmas holidays.

I am going to go to the market with my sister. It is her birthday next week and I may get an idea of something she would like. I won't be able to get anything today though as I can't afford it but it is pay day Wednesday so could go to the market again next weekend if we see anything.

It is a great sense of freedom you must feel being able to go when and where you want. It is also great that you find places you can have your fur babies with you.

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Good morning @Zoe7 @Bunniekins @Exoplanet and anyone else passing here today. Hope it's another gentle start for all. Thanks for the pats on the back y'all.

My bro and sil got back late last night but I haven't seen them yet. Probably jet lagged after over 24 hours in transit. Hoping they are pleased enough with the way I've looked after the place. I cleaned the pool yesterday, then we had big winds overnight and now it's full of leaves and debris again. Damn it. So it doesn't look like it's been cared for.

My main concerns are that, the ragged lawn and the unwashed dog - he wouldn't let me near him with the hose and we don't have a bath tub.

I have to remind myself that there were many other aspects to being here alone for a whole month and I have managed to get through them all without a crisis. Largely thanks to 2 of my support workers going beyond the usual boundaries of their work with me - one of whom rang me a few days a week to see how I was going and the other who told me I could ring her anytime if I needed to. I think just knowing I could made it so that I didn't need to (if that makes sense).

Looking forward to some chat this morning if anyone's around. @Adge @CheerBear @Exoplanet @outlander @Shaz51 @Meowmy @BryanaCamp @Angels333 @saturnzoon

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Can't chat this morning @eth as my sister will be here soon to pick me up to go to the market but wanted to send you some love and hugs before I left.

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Morning @eth and all.

Another pat on the back here from me eth for making your way through the challenges of the past week. You did it! I hope bro and sil are understanding and able to acknowledge the work you've put in to the huge responsibilities you have managed while they have been away.

Totally get what you mean about knowing support is there sometimes being enough to not need it. I can feel pretty shaky when support is not there and I don't know whether I would have it if I needed.

Hope you're staying warm and your morning goes well ❤

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Have fun at the market @Zoe7

Hugs to you and @CheerBear too

CB it was a whole month ..... Do you keep a list of potential supports at all? I do and it includes my psychologist and psychiatrist who have told me I can ring and book an earlier appointment if I have a crisis. Sometimes in my life those professionals have been the sum total of my supports. Even a good GP is of value. Then there are 3 family members I could call, but that's only in relatively recent times. All the NDIS contacts are only in the last 7-8 months. I really hear you about not knowing you'd have support, having been totally isolated for 3 of the last 4 decades. At the least, you know you have us here! And that's a definite.

What do you have on today? xxx

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A whole month is a long time @eth.

I do the same with a list of supports, but again it comes down to missing a key component of a support team in not having a qualified MH worker and some flexibility with working with me. That I am seriously missing! 😏 Thanks for the reminder I have you guys here 🙂

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Good morning @Bunniekins frozen pea @Zoe7 @Exoplanet @eth

Frozen toes here, instead of frozen peas.

I'm supposed to be going to my Sat morning yoga class right now.

I don't feel up to it, so I'm going to lie down for a rest instead.

Very rare of me to miss a yoga class.

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