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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Goodmorning @eth @Bunniekins Up early myself but need to have another sleep soon before I get up and ready for DBT. Hope you both have a good day

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@Zoe7 sleep tight x

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Morning @eth @Bunniekins @Zoe7 @Appleblossom @Mazarita @Exoplanet and all passing through

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Hi @outlander How are you?

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hi @eth sorry it took me so long, i had to go let someone in the paddock gates to do some work on the property.

Im not so great, feel pretty horrid mentally and physically. was hoping that a new day would help but it hasnt really and i caused me to stumble on my words already this morning. will proabably get in trouble with the paddock owners for giving crappy directions. Maybe the day will get better though.


how have you been? what are you up to today?

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Hope today improves for you @outlander . I've had a roller coaster of nervous reactions (including a few panics) over the last 12 days since most of the clan here left for a month overseas. I've raved about it already here so won't go on about it. Just to say I'm being triggered by sil's brother next door misbehaving. Which has me hypervigilant more than I would have been if just here by myself with the dog. So I'm running a baseline of anxiety that means I get triggered more easily by other things too. Just taking one day at a time. They don't get back til May 14.

Have a support worker for 5 hours today. We'll bus it to and from my psychologist appointment then head to target to pick up some new shelves. I've been spruicing up my cabin with the advantage of more storage space so I'm feeling good about that. Will also do some gardening while she's here to come next door to the vegie garden with me (in case boofhead next door is around). Then if there's time we might go to the beach for some ocean breeze and a more distant horizon. Even tho I don't swim in the cold water here I find it good for MH to even sit at the beach.

How are you coping with school holidays and your siblings this time?

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ive been able to read a little bit of whats been happening with sils brother but i havent been online much so ive missed lots. baseline anxiety and triggered easily isnt a nice way to be! @eth
sprucing up your cabin sounds nice though, i like being able to decorate too. i hope youll get to do the things you want to do with SW today esp the gardening with her support.

i agree, i dont swim either but i like to sit at the beach sometimes. i dont go often though because most of the beaches around here have dogs all on them which while its nice for them its not good for me or for the kids who just want to play in the sand without having dogs running up to them. for me to go to a beach where theres guarenteed no dog i have to travel an hr away.
my mother hasnt worked over the holidays much so i havent had the kids as much as i usually would. however by the looks of it she might be getting a new job which with the shifts she and he bf will have im going to have even more resposnibilities with the kids including some sleepovers or late nights at their place. its making it abit hard to organise appts esp since there will be a few at some hospitals

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Sounds like now's the time to do some 'just for you' activities @outlander and make the most of the time until you have to spend more time babysitting. Ever since we met I've thought it really unfair how much you have to sacrifice to essentially mother your siblings. Hoping what's coming up with hospitals is not too serious and you get through it well. And that you don't have to miss too many appointments. I think you do an excellent job of all that you juggle.

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thanks @eth
with pop being back from his holidays but working at a third job during that time it didnt give me much of a break. helped with abit of bills though and was good experience esp during the times i was working with disabled kids so i cant complain to much. If mum gets the job (she will hear back within the coming days) i wont have much time except myabe through the school hrs if i havent filled that with appts.

my new psychiatrist which i havent been brave enough to ring yet is in a hospital sort of setting-she takes outpatients but works in the hospital if that makes sense. the other one womens issues and checking to see what is happening with cervical cell changes (which is the scary part) along with checking to see if i may have endometriosis or pcos or something else but they refferred me to the hospital for it since they are the only ones who offer services through medicare/public system. quite a few triggers and discomfort there but id rather find out whats happening now.

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Be brave @outlander Much better to find out for sure so you can get onto some treatment and prevent things getting worse. Hopefully with it being through the public system you'll be able to get bulk billed.

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