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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hi @eth - thanks for the response! And I definately don't argue that this thread is frequently about difficulties people are having and this is indeed a great place to come to for support and connection ☺️ That can still all be the case, just in 'Our Stories' that's the only change. So, would everyone be comfortable with me moving this thread to Our Stories sometime this afternoon? ✨

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It doesn't bother me personally @Former-Member but @Mazarita started this thread and is away at the moment. It would be nice to hear her opinion.

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Thanks @eth itll be bulk billed. Its the only place near me that does that.

Ive got to head off now for a little bit. Im going to watch a movie with siblings before going to the horses. Was good to catch you this morning. Hope all goes well with your psych and sw today.

💕💕💕

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@CheerBear 👋 and lots of 💗 for you

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Thanks and right backatchya @outlander 😊😘❤

👋 to all

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@outlander Good to see you here on this thread. Hope all works well re the horsey clients. Dont be too self critical, as most people muddle words from time to time.

@eth I would really miss you if we did not have this contact. Yes I wonder what @Mazarita would think about the thread moving, generally she did not like top down authority, and wanted to protect the organic nature of the forum, but she may be too busy and have moved on.

I accept what you need to do @Former-Member

Needing a quiet day. Head pain is a problem. It is always a problem. I use my music to take over my headspace and give me something else to think or feel, but if I dont give head complete rest some days driving and concentraion is badly effected.

Plan is to play piano and have shelf fixed.

@Bunniekins Hugs

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Hi all,

Thanks for all the feedback - we really appreciate working with you guys and we do hear what you are saying. The moving of threads was something raised and worked on with the community and we hope will just help a bit with navigating around the forums. We know that when the converstaion happened there was a visability issue with that thread area which we have since taken on your feedback and fixed that issue. We always want to be as collaborative as possible in this space! I hope after chatting this out you are all feeling a bit more comfortable and it's great you are all on board with the move. We will move this thread over to 'Our Stories' by the end of today 🧡 We are always here to chat about any concerns always - if anyone does come back through this thread and feels unsure about anything please do drop us an email and we will chat it out team@saneforums.org

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Hi @eth, @Appleblossom, @Bunniekins, @CheerBear, @outlander, @Shaz51, @Faith-and-Hope, @Former-Member, everyone,

Just another one of my infrequent pop-ins to say hi, and to answer tags about the proposed change of category for 'A Long Rave'. @Former-Member, it's totally fine with me if this thread changes categories, as long as members who find friendship and solace here are able to find it just as easily. I think that will be the case from what I read on the other thread this morning, and agree the new category will be more in line with what this thread has become. As you've said, it's not that I own this thread or any other, but I appreciate having input as the person who started it.

@Bunniekins, thanks for missing me, as you wrote this morning. I have been reading your posts coming in sometime in the middle of most nights. It makes me smile that you too are up in those most peaceful hours, though it shouldn't make either of us smile, and I know it makes none of our therapists smile. But it's hard to do much different when your body wakes you up at that hour, in my case after only three hours sleep maximum, wide eyed and bushy tailed for the next few hours. Like you, I am making up for sleep lost in the night by taking a couple of naps during the day. Again, not recommended by anyone, but better than getting only three hours sleep in every 24 hour period.

@eth, I've only received a few email tags from you (no problem with that though). But I've got the sense that you are having some difficulties with the man living in sil's mother's house while they are away. Hoping the time without bro and sil ends soon and someone else has to deal with the man's problems. Always wishing you well with your ongoing activities and growth.

@CheerBear, still up many times around dawning, which reminds me of our lovely meetings at that time over many months. May the rising sun bring new strength to you each day, my friend. Hugs.

@Appleblossom, I haven't moved on, and have been reading almost all messages I've been tagged in over this time that I've been mostly unable to post or respond on the forum. The big project I'm working on is coming to a major moment of fruition in less than two weeks now. There's a lot of continued work after that for some time to come, so I probably won't be on the forum again for a while. But I still feel part of this community, care about it, and especially about the long-time friends I have found here. Hoping your creative projects are fulfilling that part of you in a rich way, and that daily life with your son is going as well as possible.

@outlander, @Shaz51, @Faith-and-Hope, fond wishes to you all, and to others I have no doubt forgotten to tag (the aging memory).

@Exoplanet, I have the sense that you are not participating in this thread much these days. But I have been reading your tagged posts coming into my inbox from your 'expose' thread (great title, hehe). Great to read about your ongoing excursions with your 'woman's best friends', and your continued resilience and ingenuity in living as self-sufficiently as you do. Sending love to you while I'm mostly invisible, but still hearing you. Love and hugs.

Over and out again from me for a while. Love to all and kind wishes.

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Hey @Mazarita 👋 💐💕

Thought you might like to know that @Angels333 is back, after a break for a while .....

Lovely to see you and hear about your current and upcoming projects .... and nice to know you are keeping a toe in ..... you have said before that that is what you are doing.

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@Mazarita Love, love, love to you Mazzy!!! Made my day :)xxx

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