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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@eth Thank you for being around too.

For the counselling to be effective it needs to go up a level. There have been many hiccups, and I am patient. Originally when I was granted it 18 months ago. The lady made out she had sweeping powers to go anywhere and be anywhere ... a lot of it has been the slowness with which my son has accepted the need and benefit of it.

Have a gp appointment today where I have to fess up that last week I had a bad week ... and I missed 4 morning appointments ... something in me would not budge ... This week is slightly better. On my walk, with a heavily pregnant lady she admitted my late nights do make it hard for mornings. It helps when others get it.

Hugz

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About level w nsw qld border but in WA @BryanaCamp re work so north maybe ish

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Opps posted reply for @ appleblossom to @BryanaCamp
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Morning @Appleblossom @Mazarita @eth @BryanaCamp @Exoplanet @Adge @TAB

@Bunniekins @Zoe7 @CheerBear @outlander @Shaz51 @Teej @Faith-and-Hope and all

@eth I hope things get better for you and get the help to keep you safe

@Appleblossom and @Zoe7 hope you feel better soon

@Adge hope you get well soon

I had my appointment with my GP today to update all my NDIS paperwork we did in 2017 as they had lost them, which I couldn't believe. but all my doctor would do was reprint tne reports with dates going back to 2015, I tried to tell him that thay needed updated copies and for him to fill in the form again but he wouldn't he started getting a bit assertive. saying he's doing what i asked reprinting them but i asked nim to update tnem and then he made me feel so scared from asking him, a panic attack started coming on, he is a hard doctoor where if you don't tell him exactly what you need he says nothing, there was a Diagnostic and Statistical manual of mental disorders form that had to be done and I ased if he new what the form was and he said yes, so I asked if we could do it and he said no, so I asked him if he could tell me where to go to have it done and he still woudnt so I walked out of his office feeling lie a little kid that's done something wrong and ended up having a panic attack on the way home.

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Oooh Dear @saturnzoon I have felt like that after some doctor appointments. Perhaps some doctors do not realise the level of power over their patient's lives. Some work on their manner .... I hope you eventually get your paperwork sorted. Panic attacks are NOT good.

Hugz.

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Hi @BryanaCamp Thanks for your encouragement.

Yes, it's been frustrating & somewhat dissilusioning - the length of time recovery is taking.

I'm getting there.

Hi @Appleblossom Most of the booming voices I've heard are male, & they scare the .... out of me.

However, I have met some fiercesome women, & they've been almost as scary.

Having my "Body space" invaded is another major trigger - when someone pushes (shoves) me, or intentionally stands way too close (when they don't need to).

Usually (but not always) they actually do intend to intimidate, which is not at all nice - & totally unnecessary.

Adge

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Sorry @saturnzoon a good gp is hard to find these days. I have had similar experiences. Perhaps he was like a dentist I saw who asked for &180 dollars for receptionist to do 5min invoice so I could apply for government loan for dental

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@eth I am so glad you feel you have support and that you will utilise it when you need to. Hope your meeting this afternoon went okay too

@saturnzoon That sounds like your GP has no idea how to actually care for his patient - you are the client and you deserve better - hope it all gets sorted for you quickly - it is the last thing you needed right now

@Appleblossom We have been good supports here for each other - I love seeing you around - you always speak from the heart as well as the head and that is all you can do Hon - just be yourself because you are enough

@Adge A few more weeks without yoga is not great but better to be safe than sorry with your tummy. Hopefully by the time the school holidays are over you will be ready to go back

@TAB You are a long way out in the middle of nowhere by the sounds of it - hope you are dealing with the isolation there okay.

@Exoplanet @Bunniekins Hi to both of you this afternoon

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@CheerBear Doing a bit better today but will update on ANC later. Hope Middle has a really cool coloured cast - not great for the holidays but I'm sure they will want to show it off anyway. Hugs to you both

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If we dont turn around some of the stuff with my son I feel I wont be enough @Zoe7 Have not heard back from Reclaim counsellor, I sent email on Wed and he only works M-T-W ... so next week mebe ...will see what happens. If it was alright to explain ...

Today was carefully keeping down my end and out of the way ... online I found a song about the Manly Ferry .. I played it quietly on laptop and he came in and went mad at me for not having door closed when I listen to music ... a moment of joyful quiet then ... felt hit by a truck ... I got up and sorted through a box ... of books someone wanted to unload ... to see if I had the music ... will need to order online ,,, but not sure what is wrong that I am so easily bruised and take so long to get over stuff ... or why he needs to do that after all .. I have done for music with him ... I feel brutalised ... have nowhere been able to explain that to counsellor ... There is a big theme .. about me being allowed to make noise ... letting kids take over the airwaves ...what things are worth fighting for ... am I just too weak ... to set and monitor this boundary thing ... which is all the rage .... these days ... then they turn it into a skills thing ... and try and teach it ...

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