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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@outlander I'm going off for a while now as sil just gave me a few chores to help preparing for our guests who arrive from tomorrow and the day after.

Have a nice peaceful day today.

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ok @eth thanks for the chat this morning. hope your day goes well xo

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Good morning, @eth, @Exoplanet and everyone,

I haven't been on the forum for a couple of days. I've read what has come through in email notifications but not been on the site to even 'support' those posts so that you know I am listening still.

An update from me today before getting ready to go to the government dentist for an emergency appointment about painful gum inflammation I'm having where my wisdom teeth were taken out decades ago, right near the joint of my jawbone on both sides. Was lucky to get this emergency appointment so quickly, as I only rang them about it yesterday. In the past, even with worse emergencies than this, I've sometimes had to wait a month to six weeks.

After that, will be bussing it to the shopping mall to collect some parcels and maybe try to find a gift for friends I only see fairly rarely, but who I will now be spending time with between xmas and new year. Whether I do this shopping or not will depend on how crazy the crowds at the shopping mall!

Then home to wait for the aircon maintenance guy arriving between 3 and 5. He installed a brand new unit for us a few months ago, which we've barely used in the time since. But now that it's hot, the unit has decide to emit a foul odour every time it is turned on. Smells like something died in there! May be something else causing it, but it's unusable for now. Again lucky to get the aircon dude coming at short notice just before xmas.

So, a day of things other than obsessively and compulsively doing video stuff, will be good for me to take the forced break out of the flat. Needless to say I haven't been leaving the flat much while so enthralled by creativity and the computer. Also have been getting pretty 'feral' with it too and not showering. Not doing much of anything else at all, and still running on less than four hours sleep a day, not even in one block. The lack of sleep seems to be because my mind is just completely switched on to the video stuff and can't wait to get back to it, even in the middle of the night. If I was working a regular job, people would think I was a mad workaholic. If I added up the hours I am spending on it at the moment, it's probably a working day of at least 12 hours every day. But, despite getting pretty physically ragged with it at times, I'm loving it too for the progress I'm making with projects now, after doing hardly anything at all on these things for the past six months.

@Exoplanet, I've been reading articles in the news today about the extreme heat in your region. I was shocked to read that temperatures have been up near 50 degrees some days. The articles kept emphasising how important it was to keep hydrated above all. So please drink lots and lots of water, or maybe cordial if like me you can't stand too much plain water, but still want to keep very hydrated over the day. If it was me I'd be drinking it as cold as possible too, which might help cool down a stressed body core temperature.

Here's a photo from the news today that made me think of you...

Cooling off in fierce heat, by spending some time fully clothed in a river. Make sure you have a really good wide brimmed hat and sunnies!

And finally, a message to all reading. Happy solstice for tomorrow, the longest day of the year...

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morning @Mazarita

good luck at your dentist, i hope its nothing to serious. glad you were able to get in so quickly!
that smell from the aircon unit doesnt sound very pleassant at all, i really hope they can get that fixed in the coming days for you.

sorry to hear about your lack of sleep but at least while your awake your doing something you love to do!

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Kids have to be told/reminded to have manners these days seems @eth

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Glad to be finished with that school @Mazarita @outlander @eth and also glad the day is over and I don't have to go back there - it was a really boring and tiring day - pretty much just moving things in classrooms and that took it's toll on me. I had several breaks but am now exhausted. Needing a rest this afternoon. It is a dark. gloomy afternoon so snuggle time on the couch with Toby sounds perfect to me.

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Hi @TAB these 'kids' are 30 years old and should know better by now. The one I raised had better manners as a young child than they do now. It's getting to the point where I will say something eventually. It really embarasses me when other family members help them out and they don't get a proper thankyou either.

@Mazarita @Zoe7 I just saw your posts - haven't had notification of them to my inbox. Wondering if the system at SANE is playing up @Former-Member.

Hope your dental ap't solves the problem Maz and that you get your other things done. Eeewww to the thought of something dead in the aircon. Hope that gets solved too.

Zoe7 have a good rest - must be such a relief to be out of there at last. Hope you find somewhere really positive for next year.

Happy Solstice to all who celebrate it from me too. xxooxx

Love to everyone here @Mazarita @Zoe7 @TAB @outlander @Appleblossom @CheerBear @Bunniekins @Faith-and-Hope @Teej @Exoplanet @Shaz51 @PeppiPatty @Sophia1 @Dadcaringalone @The-red-centaur and all who see this post

There are many more I'd like to tag - please accept my best wishes even if I didn't tag you.

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Thanks @eth it surely can only look up from here

Sorry to hear about your kids with the no thank yous - common manners and decency seemed to have gone out the door with the younger generations ....showing my age maybe but good manners are free!

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@Mazarita Goodness Mazzy did something die in your airconditioner after all?? 😮 and sorry to hear about your teeth problems hopefully it can be fixed asap.xxx

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@Mazarita

Oh No More serious teeth issues. I hope they can solve it.

Uuuugh re air conditioner.

@Bunniekins Hi Bella It is good seeing you around mroe often again.

@eth I hope the next few days pass reasonably for you.

@Zoe7

At least work is over for now. Hope next year brings a better school situation.

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