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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hi @Teej, good to see you here today. I read your rave in the Nest thread too. Hope today unfolds smoothly for you.

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Thanks @Mazarita. I hope those tides change to be more Maz friendly soon. It's kind of annoying and inconvenient when Mother Nature doesn't follow our wishes 😜. On a more serious note I have been following the hurricanes in the Caribbean and am so grateful that I am not facing the huge and overwhelming battles that so many families are facing 😢. I have a feeling Mother Nature is feeling very p*****d at what we've done to the earth.

Looks like I did manage a rave here after all 😳😊. Hoping your day is kind and gentle 💜🤗💐

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Yes, how inconvenient that mother nature doesn't time herself to my walking schedule!

On a more serious note, there are so many people suffering extreme torments in the world, climate related or otherwise. I often remember that, even living below the poverty line in this country, I am still in the top 15% of the world's wealth. I'm very aware of the terrible inequities, and the tragedies of this world. These awarenesses and the imperative to live our own lives day after day can be hard to reconcile.

I'd say your rave was more of a 'short rave', as is mine. Raves of all durations are welcome here.

Hope the day is kind to you too, @Teej.

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It is really hard to fathom some days @Mazarita how lucky we are. I was reading about the Rohingya yesterday and the human rights issues they were facing even before the genocide started. There are so many stories of how far society across the world has to go to be human. I guess though there are lots of stories that show us still what it's like to be very human too. I have to follow lots of positive uplifting pages on Facebook and other social media so I can get through without becoming so overwhelmed with all the sadness and cruelty. Contrary to popular belief, I've not been one to spend much time thinking existentially. I think I did yesterday in wondering how I was born into the family I was and contemplating how I would be now if born into a different one in a different minority disadvantaged culture. End of rave.

Wonderng if this counts as a medium rave 😳🤔😊? Will catch you next time I have a short, medium or long rave😜....or even just a hi 👋. 💜🤗💐

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Hi @Teej @Mazarita @utopia et al. Hope everyone is having a gentle day. It's really hot here and I've spent the day napping on and off, nursing the cold I have and hoping it will pass before I travel on Thursday.

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Not a good feeling, having a lurgy in warm weather, @eth. Hope it lifts, or at least the worst of it is over, by the time you travel on Thursday. I'm now hoping for a spontaneous friend visit this afternoon, if she's up for it. Catch you online together later hopefully. ox

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Thank you @Former-Member, my wonderful, caring friend , I am , feeling a bit better in the kidney area , had a big day today , so am a bit tired now

how are you today

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@eth. I hope your cold dissappears quickly.

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hope you feel better soon @eth

It is very hot up here today , feeling tired and just yuk

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Hi @Shaz51, hope you drank lots of water in the heat. Or perhaps your condition makes that difficult. Either way I hope night's arrival was a relief from the sun and that you are feeling better this evening.

Hi @Former-Member, @eth, and everyone, just got home here from friend's place for dinner. Except I didn't eat any dinner. I'm sick of take away food, I think. Just couldn't stomach it again. Instead I'm soon going to have another bowl of vita brits, which seems to really agree with my gut no matter what condition it's in.

Just chilling at home now on a Sunday night. But after being on the forum for a bit, I'm going to do some more video work. Not the hands on making part of it. Rather, writing up notes on making the last three videos. I was encouraged to do this by a net friend who has become a bit of an online creative mentor. It helps clarify and anchor what I've learned in the working process. I've kept it up every few months for a couple of years and now is the time for the next instalment.

I also need to take my meds (late again), and write an email to a cousin. We have a mutual interest in family history. I want to send her the image of the oil painting of our Scottish ancestor that has come my way.

Hope the evening is good to all.

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