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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Good morning @Mazarita @eth @CheerBear and everyone hope you all managed some sleep
What are your plans for today

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No real plans here today @outlander just pottering at home, resting this cold I have and catching up on domestics. How about you?

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Er the lurgy got you too hey. Ive had a virus thst mimics a cold for the past 3 weeks. Quite annoying ..

Hmmm no real plans here either except taking it moment by moment. Im just having a cuppa and watching sone tv while the little sisters amused playing tea parties with all her toys

@eth

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Hope you feel better soon @outlander

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thanks @eth i hope the same for you too

take it easy today, dont over do it with a cold.

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Hello Mazy @Mazarita 🙂

I was snoring peacefully when you wrote your 1.30 am post 🙂 Thank-you for thinking of me

Hi @PeppiPatty I hope you and Mr X are having a good day 🙂 Thank-you for having positive thoughts about me, I have very positive thoughts about you too

Hi @Shaz51 I hope your drinking lots of water and taking all the medications the Doctors have given you 🙂 . . . especially drinking lots of water when your working {nag, nag, nag :D}

Hi @eth I often 'see' you here as I wander along 'A long rave's postways. I know it's wrong to 'read inbetween the lines', but what I see there is a gentle soul 🙂

I'm kind of hoping the suspensful waiting game; as to whether the transporational problems in the Center of my Universe, will or will not be assisted; might end today, but probably more realistically that won't happen until tomorrow. My child might make a phone call, I know I won't - but us oldies are better at waiting the days out 😉 I'm thinking of taking the dogs for a walk in a new part of the state forest, I was going to go yesterday; but by the time I'd re-googled where I wanted to go - gone out to the car, got the GPS gadget, set up the destination . . . and fiddle, fart-arsed around . . . and was finally ready to actually go - I couldn't find my young fella! I'd left the house-yard front gate open {which I do try to remember to at least latch shut} and he'd taken himself for a walk! I called and whistled, I even beeped the car horn . . . and waited - but I needed tobacco before the shops shut and I had to go! It had never happened before!! Needless to say I didn't go for the walk because I couldn't find the young fella to walk with {the little fella isn't that into walks really, he can take them or leave them (preferably leave them if they involve prickles or anything unpleasant :D); he got to ride in the front, so for him it was probably a bonus that the young fella didn't show up}. There was a bowling-ball of muscle hurtling down the driveway toward me when I returned home, we just went for a walk around the property. I could be nothing but happy with relief that he was there and will try and use the memory of that nasty feeling of not knowing {while I was in town without him} to prop-up my own memory to latch the gate! 😉 So maybe we'll all have afternoon tea in a new spot today?

Niqua

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Good morning, everyone. Just made it to the computer at 11.30am, after a long sleep from about 2am with only a couple of shortish breaks. Still tired and it's hard to get going, as is often the case with me for some hours after waking. But at least I am dressed at this point. No plans today. A major part of it may be watching some more episodes of my new TV interest: 'Reign'. Tides are on bad timing for walking at the moment, so may not make it to the beach ((I walk at low tide to make it easier on my arthritic feet). Other things are likely to crop up over the day, but essentially it's going to be a slow Sunday I think.

@CheerBear, thanks for thinking of me over your morning coffee and bird time. I'm feeling the ramping up of heat here too. Wearing a summer dress today for the first time since last season. Hope your Sunday goes swimmingly with the fish.

@eth, hope your sleep was good too and that the peaceful feelings from the equinox continue through this day too, and beyond.

@outlander, hope your cold (and @eth's) pass quickly now. Good thoughts from you about not overdoing it when ill.

@Former-Member, Niqua, I snore too, quite loudly at times, lol. I love the description of your canine 'ball of muscle' bounding for you with love on your return yesterday. Makes me happy thinking of you receiving the exuberant affection of your fur babies. Looking forward to reading of your adventures in your forest visit today.

Happy moments to everyone for today.

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@Mazarita @eth - I was awake at that hour - didn't fall asleep until about 2.30am. But I wasn't on the forum.
I hope you both managed to get some sleep.
Good morning to you both.

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Thanks, @utopia, hope you got some chunky sleep after you went to sleep too, and that it's a good day for you.

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Morning @Mazarita, @utopia, @Former-Member, @outlander, @eth

I'm just dropping in to say hi 👋.

I relate to your dog story @Former-Member. So glad it turned out ok. My dog injured himself a couple of days ago but has returned to his old self today so I am relieved, luckily no vet fee incurred.

I'm pretty sure I could do a long rave (and I kind of just did on the nest) and there is always something to rave about 🤔😊 but I'm tired from only a few hours sleep too 7:30am - 10:30 for me. Hopefully I'll sleep tonight. Just really dropping in to say hi and I hope you all have a good afternoon and evening.

💜🤗💐

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