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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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it is definently bananas @CheerBear

its already flooding in some areas here with a few road closures and its only 930! its suppose to ease this afternoon but then have gale force winds so not a good day for outdoors thats for sure.

@CheerBear im not involved with NDIS but going off your reactions you had a really good result. Congrats! super happy for you

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oops @eth
didnt tag

Did you have a nice time away? i havent fully caught up with all the news here yet.

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Oh @Zoe7, I like many people, here & just in general, know that feeling of it
all just being too much. I feel for you going through it right now ❤️ I can't
speak for others . . . but I'm still here, I do get days that are good, or at
least not bad. When I manage to fix things like the solar & 12v systems, the
water & grey water pumps & the likes, it makes me feel a bit 'Eff I'm good'! 😄
I know people {particularly woman} that couldn't - wouldn't even try. Those
people can do many things I can't, but somehow it brings a balance in my head.
I've heard it said that courage is all about facing your fears, you are being
extremely brave! I hope you can let that fact balance out a little of the
anxiety & pressure ❤️

Hello @outlander ❤️ I think you've got a beautifully caring & generous soul ❤️

Hey @CheerBear ❤️ EEEEEkkkk!!!!! for tackling the spiders - I wonder how it
went?

Hello @Faith-and-Hope

Glad to hear your son has found a local group close to his own age to
socialize with @Appleblossom, I believe his happiness is closely related to your
own ❤️ Yay for having the house to yourself 😄

Hello @Shaz51 ❤️

Hello @PeppiPatty ❤️

Gidday @eth, glad to hear your weekend was a good one, it sounded pretty 'full
on' but enjoyable, & you got staight back into it with water tai chi, shopping
& a lovely lunch planned ❤️

Wow you've been busy @Mazarita & continue to be so! A book launch, ooooo, that's a
bit like a tickling brush with the rich & famous 😄 I'm guessing the film is to
further promote said book? Glad to hear you organized some social support for
your Mum - I think it will help her a lot. That judging gig seems quite the
task to be fitting in with everything as well, though I hope your enjoying it -
seeing many other perspectives of vision. I can't help feeling proud of you
hopping on public transport & heading out into the World, especially when your
talking about another town! I'm amazed that your excited about it, but, then
again, I can see the joy of fear there 🙂 Thank you for continuing to support
this thread & me during this time of maddness for you ❤️

Love to all that need or want it

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Hello @Exoplanet , how are you xx

veryyyyyyy hot up here

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@Exoplanet I have to ride these next few weeks out the best I can and then make a decision about what I do next year. I am seriously swaying towards changing schools but that will be a decision I made after talking to my pdoc and psych as well next week.

Today I had DBT and a GP appointment and my GP is pretty angry with how all the school things are being handled (as am I) but we both agree that riding it out is best right now.

I understand about you fixing things that you can fix on your own - I do the same - there are some things such as electrical that I won't touch but simple plumbing or renovations are easy for me to do ...just don't always have the physical strength to get things done but that is slowly improving. I still have a half renovated loungeroom to finish but also need a little money to do that so it will have to wait a bit longer.

@Mazarita @Shaz51 @outlander @CheerBear @eth hope you are all doing as ok today as you can be and the weather is not too bad where you all are 💜💙💚🧡💛

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thanks @Exoplanet

@Zoe7 the weather here is awful with more wind, rain and storms forecast until early hrs of tomorrow morning then rain easing by lunch time.

i really hope you dont loose confidence in yourself as a teacher, you are a fantastic one and i dont have to know you in person to figure that one out. Chnaging schools may be a good option even if its a really difficult one to make. you need to feel safe, comfortable and supported wherever you end up working

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hello @Mazarita how are you this afternoon?

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the weather here is awful @Zoe7, @Mazarita, @outlander, @Exoplanet, @CheerBear

it is soooooooo hot , 42 degrees on the verandra

we heard some thunder but that is it , nothing

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Hi @outlander @Exoplanet @Shaz51 @Zoe7

@Mazarita I have a sense of how much energy you put into your posts, understanding and responding to each person with something relevant to their current lives. I can only do that sometimes, and tend to feel that my time on the forum is actually a type of volunteer work. It has been special to find people here and there dotted around the forum to give me a sense of support. Sometimes I can only support with the like button.

@CheerBear So glad you are feeling optimistic about the NDIS, gives me hope. My son has gone for minimal, and I have put mine off til next year.

Love to ALL who pass by.

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Hitting that support button is enough @Appleblossom and posting where you can is wonderful - we can only do what we can do and sometimes we are more able to provide more support than others - it is not always about giving support but accepting it also so don't ever feel that you are not doing enough Hon because what you do give is enough.

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