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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Mazarita Hugs for you Mazzy have a super afternoon! Love gp xxx

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thank you @Appleblossom
good luck at your gp today

Hi @Mazarita i hope your day with your friend is a good one

Hi @CheerBear
id been wondering how youve been going. ive been reading along with the other thread and having big feels with you but i havent had much to say. i know you know how that feels too.
i totally get the need for alone time but not really realising just how much i value it until its basically non existant. try not to go into yourself to much though ok, youve got us here too. you dont have to talk about your worries unless you would like too.

ive been crochetting a little bit. im working on my cheerbear inspired rainbow blanket as well as my aunts as well. both are coming along very slowly. i think my rainbow one will be big enough once ive finished this set of colours but ill give an update soon and see what you think. it took me ages to get my aunts blanket sorted out cause i coudlnt get the colours right and then i couldnt for the life of me get the colour changes right so ive turned to the magic knot in hopes that will solve it! Have you been able to do any crocheting lately?

CB- can i ask if you had your wisdom teeth removed? they are causing me quite abit of grief and i know theyll come out but it is rather scary too.

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Thank you @outlander 😊💗

Great to hear you've still been crocheting. Love to see a photo if you're up to sharing (and you can) sometime. I've been spending a little time crocheting when I can. Over the weekend I tried to make a Christmas gnome but wasn't happy with the way it was coming out so I've put it down for another day when I can work it out. I've also been working on a Harry Potter graphgan that's going to take me ages to do. They're squares, each with a character's face looking kind of blocky. It's fun to see them coming together.

I did have mine out and it was very not-fun. I am really glad I did though as, once my mouth recovered, I had no further problems. It was scary but the pain I was in made it worth it. Big hugs for you 💗

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@CheerBear i love that your still crochetin despite everything. i have seen the graphgan and always admire the work put into them. your clever, i know youll make it look great even if it takes forever to make!
ah yes the little challanges even when they look easy huh, if you end up making the little gnome it would be good if you could share it..

ill have to have a look at the craft thread and see where i was at when i last updated, i may have done more than i think!

mm its giving me those big scary feelings. im mixed between i need to do it so itll get better and mm maybe i can wait a little longer.. i havent really had any surguries like this one, plenty of sutures and mole removals and scaring that way but nothing like this one.
i think ill have to write down my questions for tomorrow cause i think ill forget when i get there casue im nervous.
would you suggest any specific questions to ask? kinda like things you wish you had known? or anything you feel ok sharing with me?
sorry starting to ramble here..

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Thanks @outlander. I think I'd be really lost without my hooks. I picked up some ah-mazing christmas yarn a few weeks ago and will make gnomes with it (said in a determined 'this pattern will not beat me' voice 😁). I'll post a pic when I do 🙂

It'll be good to look back at that thread and see your progress. Often things come along more than we think they have!

Will you have them out under a general anaesthetic? I can't think of any specific questions, sorry. To me they were so painful and getting infected that my only question was how quickly it could happen! Things like this can be scary and there probably isn't much that can be said to help with that. A certain brave quote we've shared with each other comes to mind here though. You do brave well, even if it might not feel like it.

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i know!, youve got me me 'hooked' 😉 now CB, its been helping me so much.
your ' this pattern will not defeat me' tone gave me big smiles as i can hear it. 🙂
i havent even gotten that far yet, but i would suspect so! im not getting 5 possibly 6 teeth taken out all at once while im awake. noooo thank you.
yes they are very painful and making life harder then it needs to be so im hoping itll move quickly too.
i remember that quote, ive got it saved in my phone and on my computer too so its usually with me and may even come out on the train ride tomorrow!
Thanks @CheerBear i think ive learnt brave from you and some other members though

How are you going? I suspect youll be picking up LF soon too?

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Haha re 'hooked' @outlander. So cool to hear its helping you too 😊

Very glad to hear you'll probably be under for the removal. Way easier that way, though I get how scary the idea might be.

There is a lot of brave on the forum 🌈😊

I'm going OK enough thanks. I've had fun with my hair today and been a bit productive too, plus the chat and distraction here has helped heaps. I'm heading out now for a thing the littles have on at school so I'll be off after this post. Really great to catch you today ❤

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It has be goo to have a "yarn' with you 😉 @CheerBear what colour did you do your hair? I went purple last time and a burgundy colour. Those are usually my go to ones.

Enjoy the rest of your day. Hugs just because 😘💌❤

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the exhibition sounds great! @eth

Hello @outlander, @Mazarita, @CheerBear, @Bunniekins, @Appleblossom, @PeppiPatty

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Afternoon @Shaz51 🙂 How are you going today?

@outlander- purple and burgundy sounds really cool. I only got as far as stripping colour (purple and blue) and bleaching it before I had to pick up the kids so it is an interesting mix of overbleached yellow/white with some pink. I didn't think I added pink last time but I must have. Not sure what colour/s to do with it now I am ready to add it but it will be something bright though 🙂

Thanks for the hugs. Some for you just because too 🤗
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