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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Oh that really does sound like a great day, @eth. Wonderful to encounter so much marvellous wildlife, take photos, enjoy lunch in nature. Glad to hear you are getting rest days in between activities too.

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That's great about getting another invitation @Mazarita. Great to hear you have a collaborator to work with for a new project too. Hope you do get to the poetry night and that they're there. Nice to know you're feeling more clarity on priorities after your recent experience, and that you can move forward from that.

Just a couple of domestic chores for me today. Sil gets back tonight and bro tomorrow night. M says sil will be really busy getting paintings organized for an exhibition in Sydney and also has to work tomorrow so I'll just be making the house nice for her (compost out, flowers in) and will cook for the 3 of us later.

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@eth Wow! this reserve sounds beautiful! koalas, turtles, wallabies,ducks etc. just gorgeous. We don't have anything like that near us unfortunately. Where I used to live there was a resident wallaby who would come down early off the bushy hill behind us and feed on the lawns in front of peoples houses. So cute 🙂

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Hi @Bunniekins!

@Mazarita and @Bunniekins (reading back ...) I also can get accelerated at times of really high stress and anxiety. That level of stress is one of my known potential triggers.

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@Bunniekins, for all the meds changes this year to help with weight loss, I've only lost a small amount so far. But I've not been doing much exercise, partly from the extended period of bedridden depression due to the mental instability of the changing meds, and partly because of physios who have told me to rest my legs from walking to help heal the various issues with them. The latest in my pile of problems down there is achilles tendinopathy. I have exercises I'm doing during this current rest period and am only walking to and from bus stops and around local shopping villages. I see the latest physio again in a couple of weeks. I really hope she'll be positive about me at least doing my 2km walks again. Aside from that, I may need to do some diet changes, especially now there are signs of some heart disease. I find any kind of dieting very difficult. We'll see how I go. I'd be over the moon if I could down a couple of sizes.

@eth, cool to hear about another exhibition for sil. Hope you have enjoyed your solo time with the dog. I imagine having sil's mother next door makes it less of an anxious experience these days? Lovely that you will be bringing in flowers for their return, and some more cooking to share in celebration.

I've just added washing my clothes to my plans for the day.

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@eth, I miss my beach walks so much! It's why I live where I do and pay the inflated rent prices around here. I came to this coastal area mainly for the beach and ocean as a place to go in nature, something that seems key to mental health for me.

Damn about the small sizing of the dress you bought online. I've had that experience more than once too on ebay. These days I usually only buy from Australian vendors and avoid the smaller Chinese sizings. With any luck though, you might be able to lose enough weight to fit into it, with the extra exercise on the bike and getting out of the cabin with support workers. Would it be possible for you to do bushwalks like yesterday on a regular basis? Sounds like it was quite a workout.

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Will try to do the bushwalking more often @Mazarita but a lot of my sw hours are taken up by essential appointments and chores like shopping, chemist and so forth. Plus I really want to do the water tai chi every tuesday. Am also going to have an induction at the drop-in centre's gym and use the rowing machine at some point. Have been totally slack about the ex bike recently - might get on it today. Maybe!

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Well it still sounds like you are getting more exercise than previously, @eth, with water tai chi and even the occasional session on the exercise bike. Getting to use a gym sounds awesome too. Several positive indications for better health and some weight loss in the future.

At some point I'd like to be referred back to the public hospital gym program, if possible. I thought that's what I was getting when my doctor referred me for physio there, but so far it seems I'm only getting straight physio. That's great, but would be even better if I could get the 8 sessions of gym on their program, which are designed to get people like me more up to speed, confident and motivated for joining a regular commercial gym. They also have a smoking cessation program. I'm going to ask my GP whether it's possible for me to be referred to it at some point. But it's step by step with my health issues, so it might be something that happens in the new year, if I'm lucky.

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Hmmmm ...... smoking cessation ....... me too @Mazarita. On the short but steep hill yesterday I had to stop 3 times and my breathing was full-on. Took me quite a while to get it back to normal after we reached the top. There was a bench there but we were swarmed by mozzies when we sat on it so got moving again quite quickly. There are lots of beautiful beach walks in this town too, a fairly short drive from home. So no excuses really!

The program at your hospital sounds good. Hope your Dr refers you = there may be exercises you can do that don't cause your pain to flare up.

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I just got moderated for mentioning specifics about my weight situation. Really?

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