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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hello @Mazarita, @CheerBear, @PeppiPatty, @outlander

Hugs @Exoplanet and thank you

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@Mazarita, aggggggr

thank you my scotshirish ssteri

I imagine it might be giving rise to anxiety. How are you holding up with everything?

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The fencing contractor came, I haven't been given a price yet, but at least he came.

I went out to take the dogs for a walk after he'd left & I found my cat deceased on the side of the road. I'd noticed he wasn't there for the morning feed, I thought it wasn't a good sign. I'm glad I found him it would have been worse not knowing, holding onto the hope that he might come home.

I don't trust this contractor, he's asked for %50 upfront before he starts.

I'm feeling pretty down.

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Hi Exoplanet;

Candycane one of the moderators here, sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved pet. Sounds like you are managing really well but feel free to reach out for support through the forums or to the SANE admin team as needed.

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@Exoplanet Hi Exoplanet really sorry to hear about your cat. I agree though is better to know than not to and hold out false hope :(. I don't know anything about contractors etc. I cannot comment at all on that hopefully someone else on the boards will have a better idea on what is acceptable. greenpea xxx

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Hi everyone, just got home not long ago from another visit to my friend's place. That was after my (helpful as usual) psychiatrist appointment today. No changes to my meds at the moment, except I may start taking again one that I stopped some time ago. It's an antihistamine that helps with sleep and can also be helpful with skin rashes. I'm quite itchy since starting the newest med a couple of weeks ago so maybe that will help.

Hi @outlander, hope the day has been kind to you. Wonder what you got up to.

Hi @PeppiPatty, I love that ritual you have with your friends, of meeting every year. It's great that it's gone on for so long.

Hi @Exoplanet, big hugs for the loss of your cat. Sorry too for the doubt that is surrounding your fencing job at the moment. Love to you, dear friend.

Hi @CheerBear, so lovely that you took your crew to the rest place, and that they were happier for seeing how nice it is, and the people being kind and attentive to them. That story makes my heart glad too.

Hi @Shaz51, hugs, my sister. It is hard what you are going through. You are a very strong woman, as I see it. Just wish it wasn't so difficult for you.

Hi @Bunniekins, hope you have had a chance to walk today, maybe in your iced vovo coat. Hope you are feeling good right now.

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Hey @Mazarita Mazzy! You sound like you have had a fabulous day! How great that your pdoc will see you on a Saturday, not many would. I did go for a walk (not in my iced vo-vo coat too hot today) but in my other new invest ment a cute black and white 3/4 length sleeved top and black pants with runners :). Gave myself a hair cut tonight (learnt out to do it on the net) am growing it into a cute jaw length bob so I can clip it back off my face if I want :). It looks 1930s if you now what I mean. I like that look. Shows off my lines but hell I earned everyone of those lines on my face so I am going to wear them with pride 😄 xxx

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Good to see you @Bunniekins.

Very cool that you have pride in your lines, I like that attitude. How clever you are to cut your own hair. I made a few attempts when I was younger and ended up looking more eccentric than usual.

Your new clothes sound ace. You will really be looking the part when you walk and run. I dig that 1930s look you are describing. I can't part with my long hair, though I don't necessarily rock the look.

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@Mazarita I bet you have beautiful thick hair though dont you. I have alot of hair but is medium thickness so at my age is better cut in a short bob. My hair dresser wanted my to keep it super short pixie which I didnt mind but I just want a change and I like wearing a cute clip :). I bet you do rock the look! :)

btw: It is easy to cut your own hair. I bet ya can do it. I always used to cut my own fringe and hair when it was down to my waist.

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@Bunniekins, I have fine hair as it happens, but a fair bit of it, or at least I used to have a fair bit of it, lol. I've wanted long hair though since I had it as a child. My mum cut it short when I started school and I fdidn't like it, felt like something had been taken away from me. Ever since I've loved long hair.

I used to cut my own fringe but I could never get it properly straight!

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