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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Mazarita o0o0o0ooo ... I have always imagined you with this wild mane of hair .... kind of larger than life (not talking about weight here) that your personality would shine in a dark room kind of thing 🙂

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I'm often quiet, @Bunniekins. Mostly I am an introvert. But I do have my more expansive moments. Depends on the circumstances and whether I am on a high at the time. I'm better with creative people, who tend towards eccentricity and madness, lol. Then I can be extroverted and probably hard to miss sometimes. But mostly that was a long time ago now, and when I was manic. I have been more withdrawn for years, which is how I was as a child a lot of the time. You sound more extroverted than me really.

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@Mazarita Funny how the internet can warp our perception like that. Well it is just that you come across as very articulate and intelligent. I kind of bumble and stumble over my words in rl. I am much better behind the computer but even then you might pick up I do a faux pas so to speak when I accidently say something which hurts someone.

BTW your post didnt come up on my list I had to go looking for it. Is that what you and eth have been saying? Is that the problem? and I have gmail.

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thanks @Mazarita, just feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment and I thought today would be a great day to get on things , but my computer did not work this morning , my printer is not working

blood sugar readings are high , but finally at lunch I took a big breath and decided to watch a DVD instead

Mr shaz made dinner and feeling a bit better but still got so much to do xoxo

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I've been on the social net since about 2007 and have found it a great place to express myself, the parts of me that are more like you imagined, @Bunniekins. But these days I don't do that on the wider web so much, more just here. I do feel more extroverted and confident on a keyboard. But I think you come across as intelligent and thoughtful. I'm also someone who sometimes hurts people without meaning to. You are also so much fun and have good humour. I like to be upbeat too whenever possible, even if I am not feeling that way in the really real. I kind of exaggerate any good feelings I have. Maybe that will help make them more real.

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@Mazarita Well you are making me feel really good with all these positives coming my way 😄 I am feeling very upbeat. I hope I can return the same vibes in your direction. I just can hide my feeling of hurt etc. really well and not show it at all. No one would know in rl, the only one who has an incling would be my pdoc and that is because when she asks how am I doing I dont automatically say 'I'm great thanks' lol. You know what I am saying.

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@Mazarita@Shaz51@CheerBear@Exoplanet and all who pass tonite wishing you all a wonderful evening as son2 is standing over me needing his mum :).

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Awesome that you are feeling upbeat, @Bunniekins! And you do send the vibes my way, and they are felt.

Hugs for hurt feelings my friend. I understand from what you are saying that you are quite private in some ways. I've often been inappropriately forward and open about stuff that most people don't talk about. That's when I'm in a more social mood. I get easily hurt but the meds have me a bit less raw on that level. It was excrutiating when I was younger, so sensitive. Though not always to other people. Still, it kind of gets in under the meds, if you know what I mean. And I sort of live it out in behaviours rather than overt emotions. If that even makes sense to anyone but me, lol.

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Hi @Shaz51, sorry things are feeling overwhelming for you at the moment. It's horrible when computers don't work. There is one not working here at the moment too, my old one that is now hooked up to the TV. But may be at the end of it's life. Not sure yet. C is trying to fix it. Hope yours is quickly fixed. ox

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Hi @CheerBear, feeling you under the like button. Wondering how you are tonight.

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